When your girlfriend breaks up with you, you are left alone and confused wondering what just hit you.
You thought everything was just fine.
But most likely you missed something along the way.
Something MASSIVELY important, and missing it led to your breakup.
Here are “silent” relationship mistakes that make your girlfriend leave you.
These mistakes cause attraction in a woman to fade right under your nose up to the point that she says she wants to end things.
They never know what hit them.
And I’m not talking about obvious mistakes like lying and cheating.
We’re talking about seemingly small mistakes that lead to serious attraction loss.
Let’s start with the first.
Mistake #1: Acting Weak and Uncertain
At first you were a strong and confident man.
You projected more confidence at the beginning when your girlfriend met you.
However, over time, you started to get complacent and comfortable with your girlfriend.
You compromised your values and you let your girlfriend start making decisions for you.
You started becoming more uncertain about the future and direction your life was going.
Your attitude became… wishy washy.
While it’s ok if you become weak and uncertain for a short while (Nobody’s perfect)… continuing this trend seriously erodes your girlfriend attraction for you (without you even noticing).
You see, when you display uncertainty and weakness, it’s the same as projecting FEMININE energy.
And your girlfriend becomes REPULSED and TURNED OFF by it!
Why? Because you are no longer behaving like a strong, masculine man.
A masculine man is certain about what he wants and STRONGLY perseveres
towards where he wants to go even through the storms of difficulty or stress.
He is a rock.
To a woman, this is attractive. She wants that rock of support she can lean on
if things go bad. She wants the CERTAINTY masculine energy brings to
the table that tells her everything’s going to be ok.
So when you start acting weak and wishy washy, a woman will sense that weakness and she will doubt that she can lean on you if times get rough.
And then she’ll start losing attraction for you.
This is why it’s so important to understand how men are supposed to act to naturally attract women… so that you can face any situation and feel confidently in control.
HINT: If you’re doing it wrong, something will seem “off.”
The next mistake…
Mistake #2: Pursuing Too Much
When you pursue too much, you don’t understand the massively important,
and poorly understood, dynamics of letting a woman come to you.
You see, a relationship is like a tennis match.
You hit the ball to her, she hits it back to you.
When you hit the ball to her side, you have to WAIT for her to get back to you.
However, if you don’t let her come to you, and instead you get desperate and try to “force things”… she gets the sense that you are knocked off your center and not secure with yourself.
Her female instincts sense that weakness and she gets repulsed by the fact that you’re out of your masculinity.
Mistake #3: Not Standing Up For Yourself
Not standing up for yourself can cause a woman to quickly lose respect for you.
It shows her you are willing to compromise your values in order to gain her approval and get on her “good side.”
Every week, I get emails from men who have become the puppy dog pleaser boyfriend… and who are now desperately wondering why their girlfriends want to break up.
But when you become the overly-accomodating and submissive
boyfriend, it leads to either:
1. Your girlfriend loses all attraction and leaves you
2. Your girlfriend becomes increasingly controlling, domineering, and neurotic
Not Standing Up For Yourself includes…
- Accepting second class treatment from her
- Not leading and saying what you want to do
- Not expressing your opinion in fear that she will harshly criticize you for it and make you feel bad.
- Walking on eggshells and watching what you say to avoid triggering her.
- Being afraid to walk away because you feel she’s the only thing you have and the thought of walking away scares you
Have you done any of the above? I hope not.
All it does is make you look weak and less of a man and makes your girlfriend
lose respect for you. And when she loses respect for you…
IT’S ALL OVER
Because when a woman loses respect for you, it’s IMPOSSIBLE for her to love you.
And if you don’t want your girlfriend to lose respect for you… it’s CRITICAL that you avoid mistake #4…
Mistake #4: Letting Her Lead and Becoming a “Follower”
Men try to get women to lead.
And they aren’t even aware of it when they do it.
They tell their girlfriends “What would you like to do honey? Where would you like me to take you? What’s your favorite restaurant? Can I take you there?”
Then the woman says… “oh whatever you want to do is fine”
And the man goes “No really, what’s your favorite restaurant, I really
want to do what you want to do!”
Men often try to follow a woman who doesn’t want to lead, and
when she doesn’t lead, the man tries to convince her to lead with
questions and body language that seeks approval.
Most men orient themselves by following and seeking approval of the
woman. She leads, they follow… in fact, she isn’t even leading, but
they TRY to follow. They try to make her lead.
This is a HORRIBLE mistake!
It’s also one of the sneakiest relationship mistakes that make your girlfriend leave you.
You see, a relationship with “chemistry” has what’s called masculine-feminine polarity.
But when you get into the habit of letting the woman lead, you ruin that chemistry.
She becomes the “leader”… taking on the “masculine” role… and you become her “follower”… taking on the “feminine role.”
This causes the relationship to become DEPOLARIZED, and the woman quickly loses attraction. She feels that something is “off” and she has no way of explaining why she no longer feels attracted to you.
Instead, a woman wants to be in her FEMININE. She wants to be the one who follows a strong leader.
While on the surface it might seem like she wants to lead, deep down she is miserable being in that masculine role.
And if you make her lead, she will RESENT you for it.
That’s why it’s so important for you to understand how to take on the masculine role so that you maintain the chemistry SPARK in your relationships.
Mistake #5: Not Being Centered on Your Purpose
This one’s another sneaky problem that can lead to your girlfriend losing attraction for you.
The mistake is not being centered on your purpose.
Being on your purpose consists of goals, passions, and ambitions that you’re aiming for in the future.
Anytime you lack a purpose… your girlfriend will start losing interest in you and be repulsed by your lack of masculine energy.
Now this isn’t something she thinks about “logically.” It is built into her brain by mother nature. She will lose attraction for you “instinctively” without any way of explaining or understanding why it’s happening.
The problem I commonly see with men is that they make the WOMAN their purpose.
Essentially, they deviate from their PATH, and become obsessed with the woman.
But doing this makes you emotionally unstable because your emotions depend on the woman liking you.
It shows weakness.
And once she realizes she is your world… she loses attraction, and it’s all over.
Yes, in the surface, the woman might seem flattered by the fact that she
is your world. But she will resent you for it!
Instead, the woman wants you to already be on your purpose and she will
tag along and join you on the journey you’re ALREADY in.
You see, having a purpose is a sign of masculine energy. Because masculine energy is always going somewhere.
This purpose is your PATH. It’s the life journey you’re constantly traveling on. You are the hero of this odyssey, and you MUST not take your eye off your goal.
Mistake #6: Forgetting to Keep Dating Her
A lot of men feel that once they become “officially” boyfriend and girlfriend with a girl, their job is done.
They have finally CONQUERED her… and they can now kick back and relax.
But this is actually one of the most common mistakes men make that lead to the demise of their relationship.
You see, attraction isn’t black and white. It can build or it can fade.
And when men get complacent with their girlfriends, they head into dangerous territory.
If you get lazy and get into the same “date night” routine of sitting on the couch, eating Cheetos, and watching Netflix… your girlfriend will start thinking of you as boring, predictable, and unexciting.
And that’s when she starts losing that “SPARK” of attraction she had for you at the beginning of the relationship.
That’s why you should keep courting your girlfriend by making regular date nights (“AKA creating romantic, fun-filled opportunities for sex to happen”)…
Look, you SHOULD be inspired to SPICE things up. To do something DIFFERENT.
If you don’t feel the motivation to create fun romantic dates that surprise your girlfriend… then you should really reconsider if she’s right for you.
Because you see, we aren’t all meant to be with each other. Women trigger different levels of chemistry in each of us.
When we meet a girl, sometimes we only want to sleep with her… and so our only intent is a “friends with benefits” relationship.
But other times… we meet a girl who triggers overwhelming chemistry within
us and she inspires us to not only sleep with her, but share our life with her.
In this case, getting romantic comes naturally. Motivation is plentiful.
Keep all of this in mind and make sure you don’t make this mistake.
Mistake #7: Jealousy
This is one of the biggest relationship mistakes that make your girlfriend leave you.
Becoming a needy, jealous wuss is one of the surest ways to annoy your girlfriend and cause her to rapidly lose attraction for you.
Whenever you project that you aren’t secure with yourself, it makes your girlfriend cringe. It gives her a “gut level” feeling that you are no longer the man for her.
And when she suddenly realizes you as WEAK, and not the mature masculine man she wants, she will no longer want to be in a relationship with you.
To a woman, you represent strength. She wants a rock of support she can TRUST to be there for her when things go bad.
But if your emotions are unstable because you constantly worry and act like
a little girl, how can she expect you to be her rock when she actually needs you during a REAL crisis?
That’s why it’s important for you to get your shit together.
Some common ways men get jealous are…
- Worrying about other guy friends she has
- An old ex is suddenly back in her life and he is contacting her
- Becoming overprotective… always texting her… and always bombarding her with texts wanting to know what she is doing
If you want to avoid panicking, doing something stupid, and making your girlfriend lose attraction, it’s wise to have a clear plan of what to do.
Here’s an article that reveals how to stop being jealous of your girlfriend.
Mistake #8: Not Understanding How Attraction Works
It’s important to understand exactly how a woman gets feelings for you.
There is a huge misconception on how this process happens… and it’s
messing up the relationships of a lot of men.
Buying her gifts and being overly romantic doesn’t make her get feelings…
Falling way too hard for her doesn’t make her get feelings…
Showing her you care doesn’t make her get feelings…
All of these things are nice to do when she is ALREADY attracted to you in a relationship… but they only HIGHLIGHT the attraction that already exists.
They are the “whipped cream” to top the latte. But the latte is what matters! Triggering attraction is what causes her to fall in love with you in the first place!
As a man… the most important skill you will ever discover is how to create attraction with a girl you like.
This is something most men NEVER learn how to do… and as a result, they spend most of their lives feeling frustrated that they can’t attract the kind of woman that they want.
Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back After You Messed Up
So you made a some serious mistakes and your girlfriend left you.
Now how do you get her back?
I’m going to give you the answer. You get her back by making her feel attraction for you again.
In my free “How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back” training eBook… I give you a clear plan to get back her attraction.
It’s your ideal first step to “getting” how female relationship psychology works… so that you become attractive in your girlfriend’s eyes again.