If you want to attract the kind of women that you DESIRE into your life… while designing the rock star social lifestyle you’ve always wanted to experience… then creating an abundance mentality is the key PRINCIPLE you should start following right now.
It may seem simple and silly, but this is an extremely POWERFUL concept, if you actually do it right.
See, when you lack an abundance mindset, you live in scarcity.
…and scarcity leads to irrational insecurities that HURT you instead of making your life better.
If you’ve ever felt extremely jealous when a girl you liked started going out (or hooking up) with another guy… or if you’ve ever acted needy with a girl who didn’t text back… then you’ve experienced scarcity… and it LOWERED the attraction that woman felt for you.
Now, what is this “abundance” we’re talking about?
When you have an abundance mindset… it means you view your world filled with lots of quality women to choose from… and so you worry less if you lose one potential girlfriend… because you have other options to take her place.
When you have this mindset of “seeing” the abundance, you also AIM to create a group of quality friends and quality women all around you. You actually make it HAPPEN, by making it concrete and REAL.
Once you have a social group that gives you abundance of value, it makes it MUCH easier to attract and keep attractive women in your life.
Success will EMERGE from this abundance, because once you’ve set it up, things will NATURALLY fall into place.
Now, not only will girls see you as a LEADER that gets quality people together, but you’ll also eliminate all the “scarcity mentality” problems that
Examples of Scarcity Mentality Problems That Hurt You
Scarcity Problem #1: Oneitis
When they feel scarcity, most guys fall into the classic trap called “oneitis”
Oneitis is when you start thinking and obsessing about “this ONE girl” …and time would just STOP. You divert your focus only to her, and everything else in your life stops mattering.
This is a scarcity problem because you don’t feel other options out there. You stop thinking about other girls you like because this one girl feels SO important to you…. and it can be very dangerous once you start thinking that she is “the one” and you absolutely can’t imagine yourself being with other girls.
When you obsess and crush over a girl in this manner, you will inevitably FAIL and end up in the friend zone
The solution to get out of oneitis is to inject ABUNDANCE. That’s why the very first step is just to start thinking of other girls.
If you seriously want to make a girl feel attraction for you… you have to make sure you’re OUT of oneitis and also interacting with OTHER girls.
Scarcity Problem #2: Jealousy
Being worried that a girl will choose another guy over you is a typical scarcity problem… and it can DESTROY the attraction a girl already has for you.
If you don’t have many options, the threat of losing one girl in the future will give you jealousy in the present.
Whenever you feel jealous, stop, relax, and realize the world is filled with lots of quality women that YOU can go out, meet, and attract, if you do the right things.
Scarcity Problem #3: Being needy
When a girl starts becoming distant — talking to you less, not returning your texts, seeming less excited to talk to you… that’s usually when you feel like she is slipping away from you.
Most guys get needy when they feel they’re losing their chance with a girl.
If you feel like you’re losing your chances with her, you probably feel a sense of heavy URGENCY… and this might make you want to CHASE her more by texting her more, calling her more… or even making a BIG MOVE on her that reveals your deep feelings for her. Am I right?
Well if you’re thinking of revealing your feelings or if you feel like “going for it”…STOP yourself right now.
The more you chase a girl, the more she usually runs away. So if you’ve been
seeing a girl, and she starts becoming distant, then she probably wants a bit
What happens when you try to up your chasing? She will feel SMOTHERED
and you will PUSH her away even MORE.
The solution for you is more ABUNDANCE. All of these scarcity problems
would not exist if you had an abundance mentality.
For example, feeling that you have other options avoids “oneitis”
Jealousy affects you much less when you know you have other options.
You won’t worry about a girl not texting you back if you have a bunch of hot girls constantly texting you to hang out with them.
How a Mentality of Abundance Projects Attractiveness Women Can FEEL
1. You Project Indifference
When oneitis, jealousy, and neediness don’t affect you… then you are indifferent to the outcome… and you PROJECT this indifference to the women you meet.
The benefit from this, is that women start to intuitive feel that you won’t give them too much drama, or get too needy on them.
Having an indifferent attitude eliminates some of the possible objections she might have to hang out with you.
You are basically crossing off some of the worries in her internal checklist of possible objections… making her much more likely to hang out, and feel attraction for you.
2. You Gain a Skillset
If you constantly spent time with beautiful women, your “skills” would skyrocket. This is because practicing anything makes you better at it, no matter who you are. Spend 5 days a week hanging out with the kind of hot women that most men want to bang, and you inevitably gain a solid skillset.
Therefore, not only would you gain indifference from having lots of options… but interacting with all the other women will give you practice that will skyrocket your game.
It will make your social intelligence skyrocket. That’s all it takes to be a “genius” at this. Practice makes more perfect.
The more practice you get, the better you become at it, and the more women will want to hang out with you, and then the more you will practice!
It’s a virtuous cycle!
3. Pre-Selection Gets Her Attracted Before You Even Meet Her
This is one of the biggest factors that can boost your game.
One of the biggest things that can get a girl hot and prepared to meet you is if she sees you with other girls.
Like we talked in #2 above, the more abundance you have, the more quality beautiful women you interact with.
Now, the more beautiful women you’re interacting with, the more other girls you haven’t met will see you with them. Now if you were to approach them, what happens? You already have social proof and they will react much more positively to you.
“Inner Game” Method to Create an Abundance Mentality
You might not “feel” or believe that you live in abundance, but you know logically that you really have lots of options to choose from.
If you start telling yourself that you are living in abundance… then your mind starts believing it bit by bit.
This habit of telling your mind positive things to create an abundance
mindset is called doing AFFIRMATIONS…
You might have heard about the concept of doing affirmations from self-help
gurus and, like me, you might have thought it was a lot of mumbo jumbo.
But it isn’t just waking up and giving yourself compliments while looking
at yourself in the mirror (at least that’s what I used to think too).
Affirmations can actually have a CRITICAL impact on how you shape your
own self-image, which then shapes your mentality and behavior.
“Outer Game” Method to Create an Abundance Mentality
Making suggestions to your mind is only one way to create an abundance
mindset…it’s the “inner game” method to create abundance.
The other is an “outer game” way to create abundance…and it’s actually going out and making the abundance HAPPEN…
How do you “make” things happen? By actually going out and forcing yourself to socialize… or forcing yourself to actively plan to increase social abundance in your life.
Once you start taking the time to invite people, and organize logistics, you will feel some resistance at first… and maybe a bit of fear.
When you feel this, it’s because you are out of your comfort zone… and it’s a good thing.
So when you actually go through with it… in SPITE of the resistance you feel… then you are “doing courage” …and it builds confidence.-
You will start to socialize out of your comfort zone for a few times in a row, and that’s when you start to build high social momentum.
Being on a “Social Momentum Streak”
Have you ever been on a “going out” streak… or a “partying” streak – and you felt extremely sociable during that time?
If you’ve felt this way before, then you had, what I call, high social momentum… and you were on a “social momentum streak.”
Your social anxiety is at a minimum – and you are extremely relaxed when interacting with people.
These types of situations are when you make the most friends, and meet the most GIRLS.
The thing is that… the high social momentum streak probably happened by
chance – like maybe you had a couple birthdays in a row…or you got invited to a few parties in a row.
Imagine if you could regularly have social momentum…
…and imagine the friends and the cute girls you’d be in contact with REGULARLY if you could do this all the time.
Building Social Momentum
The prime DIRECTIVE of your “outer game” abundance mentality, is to find courage-doing opportunities that build social momentum.
This is the type of mindset shift you need to make if you want to design the lifestyle that you’ve always wanted…
Instead of waiting for someone to invite you to a party, why don’t you create it yourself?
Instead of waiting for someone to say “hey let’s all go out and have a good time” why don’t you plan the logistics yourself?
With this in mind, here are some ways to increase abundance by building social momentum.
These may or may not spark an idea, but I recommend you take out a paper and pencil and write down any ideas that “click” …and that you think you could use for yourself… to fill your life with more abundance.
7 Possible Action Steps That Build Social Momentum:
1. Create a habit of meeting up with your friends, at a certain place, at least once a week.
2. Develop a routine of playing a pickup sport with your buddies. It doesn’t have to be super competitive. A simple frisbee toss in the park gets you socializing (and good-feeling endorphins pumping).
3. Develop a habit of going to the gym with buddies. Working out is good in general because it arranges the “chemistry” inside of you – it boosts your testosterone in a way that makes you feel more like a man.
4. Meet up for pub-trivia with your buddies, once a week.
5. Swing Dancing: they usually have a free beginner’s class at the beginning of a friday night event. (I really recommend any dancing because it allows you to interact with women in a “touching-holding-hands” way)
6. Meetup.com is a great site to find people that share similar hobbies.
7. Get into the habit of talking to attractive women. It boosts your confidence and gives you more options in your mind.
Remember, a scarcity mindset leads to needy-ness and unattractive behavior. Inject abundance of value into it, and MOST of it goes away.
Next Step: Learn to Create Attraction
The typical guy doesn’t have an abundance mentality when they interact with a girl… meaning he feels she’s like the ONLY opportunity he will have with her. He REALLY doesn’t want to ruin his chances with her.
So what does he do? He tries way too hard to impress her… he gives her too much attention… and he simply is too “nice” to bring up any PG or sexual topics.
In addition, he might fall into oneitis, act needy with the girl, and jealousy will greatly affect him.
It’s not his fault. The typical guy never learns about what you are reading right now.
These guys were never taught how to really create feelings of ATTRACTION in a woman, so they just don’t “get it.”
But not you. You’re one of the few who reached out to educate yourself… and now you’re one step closer to “getting it.”
Now you know what causes girl problems that might have plagued you in
the past… and now you know that a scarcity mentality is the root cause of them.
However, there’s much more to learn. If you know how to eliminate scarcity, that’s a GREAT start.
But now you also have to learn how to create attraction.
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