She loved you. She was crazy about you.
But something happened along the way that made your girlfriend lose attraction.
Over time, she went from sweet and loving, to cold and cranky.
She took longer and longer to reply to your texts even though she was quick to reply in the past….
And then she decided to leave you… saying something like “let’s just be friends”… because she didn’t “feel it” anymore.
So now here you are… looking for ways to reverse it… and searching for ways to make your ex girlfriend want you back badly.
You wonder: “Can I ever get her back? Can I ever get the relationship to how it was before?”
And the answer is YES you can. This is something YOU can make happen… but ONLY if you know what to do.
Because you see, most guys don’t know what to do… and instead of attracting her back, they end up actually FORCING their ex girlfriend away from them because they don’t realize that they’re committing one (or more) of the 7 deadly mistakes in this report:
Even though you are hurt right now, there are GOOD NEWS.
You CAN get your ex back. This is something you CAN make happen… And it’s all due to the following fundamental principle of attraction:
A Woman’s Attraction For You Isn’t “Written in Stone”
Just like she went from loving you, to being annoyed by you… her attraction can flip once again.
There are a number of possible behaviors that you did to make your ex girlfriend lose attraction.
- Maybe you got too needy…
- Maybe you acted too possessive…
- Maybe you got clingy, bombarded her phone with way too many texts, and it made her feel “smothered”…
Whatever it was, you have to be AWARE of the specific things you did to cause the girl to lose attraction. (By the way, here is an article that covers in detail 8 “sneaky” relationship mistakes)
The reason she left you probably wasn’t the “excuse” your ex girlfriend gave you when she broke up with you.
So whatever reason she gave you for breaking up, take it with a grain of salt.
And here’s why:
A woman often doesn’t know why she lost interest in you… so she rationalizes things in her head.
This is because a girl decides with her feelings, and then rationalizes what she feels with logic.
When she breaks up, some common reasons a girl gives you are…
- You’re too young
- We’re incompatible
- I need a break
- I need to find myself
- It’s not you, it’s me
The most likely explanation is that she went into her feelings, realized she didn’t feel a “spark” of attraction like she did before, and then figured “yeah, we’re not compatible”.
“Ok, I get it Frankie, but how do you make her feel that spark of attraction again?
To get her back, do the following…
1. First, go no contact immediately.
Don’t agree to remain just friends. Tell her you’re not interested in just friends and to let you know if she changes her mind.
After that, walk away and don’t ever contact her unless she reaches out.
The purpose of this is that you stand up for yourself. Remember how we talked about behaviors that caused her to lose attraction? Well, those behaviors made you weak in her eyes.
When you don’t agree to being “just friends”, what it does is that, by standing up for what you want, you redeem yourself by making a strong move… and this gives you a chance to get her back later.
When she contacts you again, assume she misses you and wants to see you, and make a date. (Follow the steps on this article: when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact)
2. Next, when you hang out again, go back to the old way of interacting with her and start doing the things you used to do that made her attracted to you in the first place.
Sounds simple enough right?
But here’s the problem…
The thing that stops men from getting their girl back is that most men in this situation want to have the “relationship label” back… so badly… that it ruins things.
When they hang out or talk with their ex, they push her away by doing things like…
- trying to get her to be your girlfriend again
- talking about feelings
- talking about the past relationship
- in general, trying to “logic” or talk things through in order to convince her to get back with you
So when you hang out with your ex girlfriend, don’t attempt to make her your girlfriend again. As I explained earlier, don’t try to get the relationship label back.
Instead, have a “just fun and no expectations” mentality. Only focus on having a good time without being emotionally attached to “getting her back”.
Ironically, once you start getting needy of the outcome of having her back as your official girlfriend, that’s when you lose your chance of ever getting her back.
Now, as you go no contact, take that time to upgrade yourself
Focus on YOU.
Avoid isolation. Don’t stay home being lonely and sad that your girl left you. That will achieve nothing.
Instead, go out and be around other humans. Hang out with buddies that bring your mood up… And ESPECIALLY, start talking to other women. These are the most important thing that will help you move on and get over your ex.
Because here’s the thing…
The things that help you move on from your ex, are the same things that will help you get her back.
If you want to make your ex girlfriend want you back badly, this is the path to take.
I reveal this in detail in my free “How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back” training eBook
It’s your ideal first step to “getting” how female relationship psychology works… so that you become attractive in your girlfriend’s eyes again.