What if I told you that a weird psychological principle used by sleazy manipulative salesmen and persuasion masters can be used as an online dating technique to get a girl to give you her number?
Apparently so.
What’s more, I’ve used this technique to create okcupid successful messages that get you the date.
You see, this weekend I’ve been studying what’s called the “door in the face technique”
And it basically goes like this:
If you ask someone for a simple request, they are more likely to say yes… than if you ask someone for something more difficult. Simple and logical, right?
However, the trick is this: If you ask someone for an outrageous request FIRST… and then you ask them for the easy request… they are MORE LIKELY to say yes to the easy request, than if you just ask for the easy request by itself.
How do you apply this to online dating you might
ask?
You apply it like this: Instead of just asking a girl for her number or to meet up with you… first ask a girl for a big outrageous request… and THEN ask for her number or mention a first date.
Ok, I get it. On the surface this probably sounds really manipulative and mechanical. And I agree with your objection, because I really want to have fun when I talk to girls. I want to enjoy the process and not be just be some mechanical message sending robot.
So here’s what I do to have fun with it. I ask a girl if she wants to run away with me. (the big request) The way I ask is playful and fits with my personality, so I don’t feel like a robot.
Now some girls won’t reply to this, and others will. Just focus on the ones that do. If you get 3 out of 10 responses, that’s actually GREAT.
When she replies, she usually asks where you’re going. That’s when you make up an elaborate plan of where you two are going… and what you two will do when you run way together.
(check out my word-for-word transcript here)
This is Step 1 of this door-in-the-face online dating technique… You ask for the outrageous request… and tell her the plan.
Now, she might play along, and she usually does. When she does, then you have completed Step 2… getting her to engage even MORE.
When she engages with you and “roleplays” with you, that’s when you know it’s ON.
Step 2 is completed… and now ready to pull the trigger.
That’s because Step 3 is when you go for the “easy request”
See, step 3 is about actually setting logistics and getting her number.
You’ve asked her for the big request, she engaged, and played along. (Step 1 and Step 2)
…now it’s time to propose an easy request that is very simple and REALISTIC.
Like this: “Let’s at least have a first date… you know so I can be sure you’re not really a 350 pound asian man 😛 ”
So your playful excuse is that before your big epic adventure… you want to meet her for a quick coffee (to be sure that she isn’t scary)
Now this online dating technique is just one of many that works.
If you’ve already found a set of okcupid successful messages that work to get you numbers and dates online, then you’re good and you don’t have to try this.
However, if you’re struggling online… on OkCupid, Match, POF, Tinder… etc Then I recommend you try this routine out and let me know (in the comments below) how it’s working for you.
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