There’s a girl you really like. You’re obsessed with her. You can’t stop thinking about her.
But you can’t get her to feel the same way. She only treats you like the “nice” friend… all while she gives all her attention to ANOTHER GUY.
She seems to be REALLY interested in him. It makes your heart ache, and your blood boil… and so now you are here on my site looking for answers on how to make her like you more than him.
Because you want to make her YOURS.
Yes?
If this is you, then you need to learn this intriguing little technique that gets her OBSESSED with you.
Okay now listen up, in today’s Q&A, you’re going to learn what to do when your crush likes another guy more than you. I’m going to give you 4 steps to turn things around… so pay close attention.
***Question***
She Likes Me… But She Doesn’t Want to Be My Girlfriend… and Likes Another Guy More… What to do when your crush likes another guy more than you?
Long story short, this girl I’ve talked to since February said she likes me and that she would be my girlfriend but she doesn’t know yet because she’s confused.
I’ve never gone a day without texting her. We talk everyday.
I took her out to eat once and she said she had a lot of fun. She would always tell me she liked me, but then all of a sudden she starts posting pictures of her and some other guy she “likes”.
She hasn’t posted anything about their “relationship” but she still texts me. I don’t get why she said if she had the chance to be my girl she would take it but she hasn’t?
She knows I like her a lot. And she said that I’m her distraction. What is that supposed to mean? I really wanna know.
And also she was the first to start sending hearts and flirty emojis. But I just wanna know if she still likes me. Sometimes she takes hours to reply and it’s really annoying. What do I do? Thanks!!
– Hector
>>>My Comments
Ok Hector, brace yourself… for you’re about to receive some tough love.
It pains me to read your story for two reasons.
1. I can tell you REALLY like this girl, and I can also tell she felt at least SOME attraction for you.
2. Even though this woman actually likes you… you’re messing it up by acting like a needy wussbag!
You see, she actually did FEEL some attraction for you, but… somewhere along the line, you did SOMETHING with your behavior to turn her off and make her run to another guy.
She says “you are my distraction” — what does this mean?
Well, from your story, it seems like this translates to “I like you, but not enough… so you’ll be my distraction until I find something better”
Ouch.
She obviously doesn’t feel attracted to you enough to be WITH you… so she is lining up a replacement dude while she hangs out with you and drives you crazy.
So what to do when your crush likes another guy more than you? Stop making unattractive mistakes that decrease her attraction for you.
Here’s What You Did Wrong
Within your email, you basically telegraphed exactly what you did…
You said “I’ve never gone a day without texting her. We talk everyday.”
What this basically tells me is that from day one, you felt like you had to be on her like white on rice and it probably STOPPED any chances you had to make her wonder about you when you were away.
It didn’t give her a chance to make her miss you… to make her reflect back and think “I miss this guy, I wonder what it means… maybe it means I like him”
And as David DeAngelo says, “you need to give her the GIFT of missing you.”
You see, most men feel that the more texts they exchange with a girl… the closer she is to liking them.
However, if you text women too much without your texts somehow leading to a date, you get the OPPOSITE effect.
You kill the mystery, she gets bored, and your chances of getting her out on a date diminish.
That’s why instead of bombarding her phone with purposeless texts everyday…
You Need to Create Space For Mystery to Happen
You see, women need time away from you, to sort their feelings out about you. If you’re always texting her… this won’t happen.
But if you focus on your purpose, have other friends, have other options of women, you will naturally be less available, and you will give her SPACE to wonder about you.
Can you turn this around? You bet you can. But you need to take action and take the right steps before it’s too late.
So let me proceed by giving you 4 tips to turn things around…
4 Tips to Turn Things Around When Your Crush Likes Another Guy More Than You
Tip #1: Stop Getting Hung Up On Just That One Girl
Stop making your life, mood, and emotional energy all about HER.
All this does is make you feel weak, insecure, and it makes you think incorrectly.
See, when you’re fearful and too dependent on your outcome with one woman, you lack the masculine confidence that creates attraction and instead it makes your behavior FEMININE in nature.
It’s like you’ve let your “inner girl” out (and she needs a spanking in the worst way)
Worst of all, it makes you mess things up with a girl you could have had a chance with.
So stop making it all about getting that ONE girl, and…
Tip #2: Start Talking to MORE WOMEN
Question: What behaviors create attraction?
Answer: Behaviors that you’d do IF you had lots of women to pick from.
I cannot overstate the importance of the concept of abundance.
Thinking in terms of abundance is CRUCIAL to bettering yourself with women.
In fact, the biggest hurdle that stops men from having the kind of success they want is the deep insecurity that deals with believing there are a limited amount of women out there…
Or WORST of all, thinking that there’s only girl out there for you.
When you’re stuck in scarcity, you are weak, you are fearful, and you NEVER feel in control of the relationships you get into.
(I KNOW you can relate to this in some way)
But once you begin to interact with more women in your life, it eradicates your scarcity problems, and gives you back the emotional confidence and CONTROL that you want to have with women.
As a consequence, you stop doing the weak, behaviors that make women run away.
Behaviors like…
- Pursuing women too much
- Acting submissive
- Sharing your “feelings” about her
- Seeking her approval
- Letting jealousy affect you
- Getting needy about “losing her”
Why do you stop these behaviors? Because once you feel like you have other options… there’s no need to be FEARFUL about losing just one girl!
When you make this SHIFT, things start to change… and you may even re-attract the girl you previously felt weak for because of the my tip, which deals with something very important about the nature of a woman’s feelings for you…
Tip #3: Realize That a Woman’s Feelings For You Aren’t “Set in Stone”
Look, when a woman says she likes you, it means “I like you, RIGHT NOW.”
Likewise, if she says she “doesn’t feel it,” it means “I don’t feel attraction for you, RIGHT NOW.”
You feeling me?
Whether a girl “likes you” or not isn’t set in stone.
Female feelings are fickle. They can SHIFT. Just like she went from liking you to not liking you… she can go from not liking you, to liking you again!
And it all depends on one thing: ATTRACTION
Which brings me to the last and most important tip to turn things around with a girl.
Tip #4: Understand How The “Game” of Attraction Works and Get the Help You Need to SUCCEED
As a man, the most important skill you will ever discover is how to trigger SEXUAL ATTRACTION inside of a woman.
If you don’t “get” how attraction works, you will NEVER be able to attract the type of women you want… and you’ll always LOSE to the guy who does “get” how attraction works.
Plus, you’ll have to depend on “getting lucky.” I don’t know about you… but I HATE the idea of letting my love life depend on LUCK.
It’s much better to TAKE CONTROL and have the ability to make women feel attraction wherever, and whenever you want.
That’s why you need to learn the mind-game of “creating attraction” by watching this video right here
Listen, if you want that one special girl to stop thinking of you as JUST A FRIEND… and you want to instead make her think of you as a LOVER (and you probably do or you wouldn’t be reading this)… then you need to learn this “Mind Scrambler” technique that gets her obsessed with you.
Remember, not only does it help you get that “hard to get” girl, but you will finally be able to handle the women and dating part of your life.
Make it happen!
Your friend,
Frankie
Slideshow Summary of this Article
Hello! I really like your tips. You are a very inspirational person and I appreciate your help. However I was wondering If you could give me some personal help here. So, I really like this girl. She never leaves my mind. I try not to overflow her with texts, but the urge is strong believe me. We are pretty good friends and she is my lead actress in all of my short films I direct. I do this because it’s filmmaking is my passion but also as an opportunity to make us closer. We went to homecoming together as “friends” and she had a blast, and it was all fun. But recently she has been paying attention to this buff, super handsome, talented singer guy and it makes my blood boil. I happen to be quite shy but once I open up I am a really awesome guy. But I can’t seem to open up to her and this leads me to believe that’s the reason she dropped everything for this guy. My friends say she really likes me but every time I try to make a move, the guy shows up and steals the show. This one guy has nothing in common with her (unlike me) and treated all of his previous girlfriends terrible. I don’t want her to get involved with him but I don’t want to cause a ruckus. Her jovial personality is giving me mixed signals, I don’t know is she likes me or is just being very friendly. I need some help and you seem like the right person to ask. Thanks so much my friend.
Jim