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When The Girl You’re Seeing Stops Texting You

If you’re seeing a girl who’s important to you, and you’re afraid she’s
losing interest, then keep reading.

Especially if:

  • All of a sudden, she seems “busy”
  • Your conversations aren’t what they used to be, she used to sound excited to talk to you, but now she won’t text at all, or maybe gives you cold responses
  • You don’t know why she’s acting this way
  • You want to get her interested in you again

When the girl you’re seeing stops texting you, you want to deal with this with a calm, confidence without appearing weak.

In a bit, I’ll show you how to do this.

In the following Q&A, our good friend “M” is going through this every same situation… and I give him an interesting answer you probably haven’t heard before.

Let’s go over his question.


Hey Frankie,

Thanks a lot for the tips, I am surely picking up on my game.

My issue though is somewhat different.

There is this girl I like. We clicked and we got on quite alright, we talked and texted on the usual and we even kissed on a couple of occasions.

But all of a sudden, she got too busy and I couldn’t see her anymore, and our conversations are no longer as smooth sailing as they used to be. It’s either she won’t text at all or maybe she will text me cold responses. I don’t know if it’s something I did or said. All I want is to get this girl back. Thanks

– M

>>>My Comments

This situation happens a lot. You are seeing a girl, it’s going great, but then she becomes cold and distant. What could be the cause?

Sometimes, this happens when you overcrowd a girl. Maybe you over-text her, or she senses you are “falling in love” and trying to be her boyfriend… and so she backs off because she feels she needs space.

Sometimes it’s not you. It’s something in her life that makes her want space to figure it out in her head. So she basically goes wandering off away from you.

When this happens, you need to stay strong like a rock and stay where you’re at…

And most importantly…

You Must NOT Chase After Her!

When a woman moves away from you, but you remain still without running after her, you demonstrate you are emotionally non-needy…

And then something amazing happens after a while…

That distance between you will create TENSION. Tension for her to come back to you… because you are her rock of “Masculine Energy.”

If you chase too much, however, she won’t feel that masculine energy anymore. Instead, she will sense weakness, and she won’t feel that tension to come back to you.

It is hard for most men to handle this correctly because they can’t handle their emotions.

Whenever a girl they like moves away from them, they get a MASSIVE FEAR OF LOSS that makes them chase. This is why it’s so important to be a man on your purpose  — it keeps you emotionally “grounded”.

In practical terms: Go no contact, and let her come to you. Don’t text her until she reaches out. This can go for days, weeks, months… let her reach out, and when she does, assume she misses you and wants to see you… and make a date.

That’s what you do when the girl you’re seeing stops texting you.

I hope this makes sense to you because this a unique way of explaining this

***His Reply

Thanks man, this makes a lot of sense.. I’ll put it into practice and I’ll let you know how it goes.

>>>My Reply

Awesome, looking forward to it

***His Reply

Hey Frankie, thanks my friend for the advice…

I put into practice what you told me about me giving my girl space and letting things flow. I did that, I stopped chasing after her and eventually she started to text me. So we have been texting again back and fourth and yesterday, all of a sudden, she texted me saying she wants to come over to my place on Saturday to have lunch and to hang out..So is this an opportunity that I might get laid, how should I act?

>>>My Reply

Nice job my friend, now it looks like she’s coming to you.

Saturday is definitely an opportunity to get laid. All you have to do is hang out, have fun, and hook up…

…and adhere to the following strategy.

1)Don’t get into any serious talk, “feelings” talk… or relationship talk.
Only focus in the moment, and having fun.
2) Lead her and escalate. It depends what you’ve done in the past. You can start by putting your arm around her… then more touching… then kiss her… and so on.
3) If she doesn’t seem comfortable at any stage, don’t worry about it, take a step back, relax, enjoy the moment, and then try again later. Two steps forward, one step back.

Again, the most important thing to focus on is to have fun, and avoid any serious talk that makes her worry about you getting clingy.

By the way, here’s a similar article I wrote about when the girl you’re seeing stops texting you and becomes “distant”: When Your Girlfriend Pulls Away, Avoid This Mistake

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