When your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact, the emotions come back, old passions flare, and your brain starts spinning around wondering what the heck you should do.
I’m here to tell you that this is a BIG opportunity for you …and it’s something you shouldn’t ruin. (I mean, obviously, right?)
Get things right, and you’ll start seeing your ex girlfriend again. She’ll feel more attracted to you than ever before and she’ll be eager to see you again.
But make the wrong move… and you lose your chance. Probably forever.
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To help you out, I’ll share with you the following question asked by our good friend Mike.
PAY CLOSE ATTENTION: He’s probably got the same issue as you. His ex girlfriend contacted him after 6 months of no contact, and he’s confused out of his mind wondering what to make of it.
I mean she just texted him out of the blue. It came OUT OF NOWHERE!
So I don’t blame him one bit for feeling crazy confused.
Ok Mike, take it away…
My ex girlfriend just reached out after 6 months of no contact! What should I do to get her back?!
Ok here’s my story…
My girlfriend broke up with me 6 months ago.
At the time, she said she wanted to take a “break” because she no longer felt a “spark” for me.
I was devastated.
We’ve been going no contact ever since (it’s been 6 months since we last talked)
But now she called me yesterday two times in a row.
I did not answer, and soon after that, she sent me a text with a screenshot of a math problem she wanted me to help her solve.
The weird thing is… I know she KNOWS how to solve that kind of problem. Why would she ask me?
If she wanted to talk, all she had to do was be straightforward with me and say let’s talk.
What should I do to get her to want me again?
Here’s a very important fact about female psychology that you need to know:
Women get into your “orbit” when they’re thinking about you.
Most of the time, they will do it indirectly.
They will find an excuse to talk to you.
And when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact… what matters is that she is reaching out. Even if what she says seems random or pointless.
Let me say that again.
The way she reaches out doesn’t matter. The bottom line is that your ex girlfriend is reaching out.
As a woman, she will be indirect and “skip around the subject”… but what she really is COMMUNICATING is: “You are on my mind and I want to reach out somehow.”
As a man, being AWARE of this female psychology secret allows you to understand what your ex girlfriend reacts to, and you will have a greater chance to get her back.
But if you don’t “get it”… you will be lost and confused and you’ll have to depend on luck
In your case, asking for help with a math problem was her way of reaching out. It was her EXCUSE to get into your radar.
As a man, you have to read these signals, be decisive, and confidently lead the interaction to where you want it to go.
Here’s what you need to do…
Don’t wait for her to actually say “let’s talk.” or “let’s meet.”
No. Instead, when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time… assume it’s because she misses you… and wants to see you… and then make a date.
Be direct and say “Hey, it was great talking. I’d like to see you… when are you free to get together?” And set a time and date to meet up.
What do you do next?
The next step is tricky, so listen up.
Most men sabotage their chance to get their ex back because they make the following mistake…
What Do Most Men Do When Their Ex Jumps Back Into Their Lives Suddenly?
They ruin it by pushing too hard to get “officially” back together with their ex.
Look, I get it. I’ve been there. You are so eager and excited to get back the relationship you had before… that you can’t help but to rush things.
You just can’t wait to get it over with and KNOW in your mind that everything will be alright because you have her as your girlfriend again.
But that’s when you lose…
Because when you are in a fearful state of mind of NEEDING to have her back as your “official” girlfriend… it blocks you from creating the attraction that makes her fall in love with you again.
And then when she senses you REALLY NEED to become her boyfriend again, she will feel like she’s losing her freedom and she will back away quickly.
Instead, Here’s What to do When You Start Seeing Your Ex Girlfriend Again
Here’s what to do.
Never bring up your feelings, relationship labels, “getting back together” talk.
Don’t do any of that stuff.
Let me ask you a question.
When you and your ex girlfriend first started going out… how did you behave? What was going through your mind? I want to really try and remember this.
Chances are, you weren’t constantly worrying about your future chances with her. There was no pressure to be officially together. It was all good emotions and FUN.
You were PRESENT in the moment… there was lots of laughing… flirting… teasing… overall lots of positive emotions that allowed her to feel a strong sexual and emotional chemistry with you.
THAT fun, present energy is what TRIGGERED attraction in her and what made her slowly start falling in love with you.
That was it!
If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, you have to hang out with her with that same FUN and PRESENT state of mind… so that you give her those FEELINGS OF ATTRACTION again.
I know, I know… this is so much easier said than done. Most men in your situation get so impatient to get back together… that they bring the “needy” attitude that stops their ex from becoming re-attracted again.
That’s why you must be emotionally strong and stick to the plan (in particular, the plan laid out in my Free “How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back” eBook)
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Inside, you will learn:
- 7 Dangerous Mistakes That Stop You From Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back
- The Simple Reason Women Go From Sweet and Loving to COLD and Indifferent
- The 3 Behaviors You Must Do to Re-Attract her back
- How to Make “Becoming Official Again” Her Idea