“Ex Girlfriend Keeps Contacting Me, Why and What Do I Do?”

by: Frankie Cola

If you’re saying “my ex girlfriend keeps contacting me” and you don’t know why… then listen up.

When your ex girlfriend keeps reaching out to you, it means you are still on her mind.

You were happy together, things were going awesome… but somewhere along the way, she lost attraction and decided she didn’t want to be with you anymore.

However, she keeps contacting you.

And it’s important to know this CRITICAL FACT:

A woman’s attraction for you isn’t “set in stone”

She loved you at one time in the past, but that was IN THE MOMENT of when
she was experiencing it.

She doesn’t feel that love for you anymore… but again, only IN THIS MOMENT.

And here’s why this makes your chances of getting her back possible:

Attraction is not “FIXED”, but something that gets TRIGGERED.

Attraction is boosted up, or you can make her lose the attraction, depending on what you do.

And here’s the best part: If you carry yourself in a particular certain way, you’ll trigger her attraction back.

Here’s how to do it

So if you’re thinking “my ex girlfriend keeps contacting me and I’m not sure why”…then you should be glad because there’s lots to hope for.

However, you must avoid making the same mistakes that made her lose attraction in the first place.

It’s important to be aware of these following mistakes.

Table of Contents

5 Toxic Behaviors that STOP Your Ex Girlfriend From Loving You Again
1. Begging, Pleading, Acting Weak, Needy, Desperate, and Acting Like a BIG WUSS
2. Agreeing to Remain Just Friends
3. Not Knowing What to do When Your Ex Girlfriend Contacts You “Out of the Blue”
4. Trying to Convince Her to “Get Back Together” With You
5. Playing the “Boyfriend” Role… and Not The “Lover” Role
How You Become “Officially” Together Again
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5 Toxic Behaviors that STOP Your Ex Girlfriend From Loving You Again

1. Begging, Pleading, Acting Weak, Needy, Desperate, and Acting Like a BIG WUSS

The woman wants a man. That’s what she’s attracted to.

Also, you don’t want her to get back with you out of pity.

You want her to be head over heels attracted and wanting to be in your arms again.

But I know that you feel really desperate right now, and you feel like you have to get her back at all costs. Just to KNOW that you have her.

That’s the “little boy” inside of you who wants to feel safe and validated.

But that little boy only thinks of having her back… while ignoring how attraction works.

To trigger a woman’s attraction (remember you trigger attraction to make her love you again)… you can’t act like a little boy… you have to act like a man.

I mean this makes sense because women want a man who is emotionally strong.

If he gets emotionally weak and acts like a wuss when he doesn’t have her approval… how will he behave when there’s a REAL emergency and she wants him to keep her safe?

Will he have the composure to keep it all together or will he act like a little bitch?

That’s why women unconsciously give you “tests” of taking away her validation… to see how you react.

If the girl always gave you validation 100% of the time, it would be extremely easy to be confident.

I mean, DUH. This shouldn’t surprise anyone. Any guy can bring his best personality when a cute girl is laughing at his jokes, and giving him approval 100% of the time.

But the woman’s mind is smart. It wants to filter out the weak, and keep the men who are strong when things get tough. Which man will be a rock when her emotions are wildly fluctuating?

2. Agreeing to Remain Just Friends

This is something I cover deeper in this article.

Agreeing to remain friends with your ex might be your first instinct… because you don’t want to lose her… but that’s the wrong way to go about it.

Another area where men make mistakes is when the ex reaches out after a long time…

3. Not Knowing What to do When Your Ex Girlfriend Contacts You “Out of the Blue”

When your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact, old emotions flare up, and you’re suddenly thinking about her again.

Chances are, you didn’t act like a wuss too much. It’s why your ex girlfriend keeps contacting you… things aren’t that bad.

However, pay close attention on what to do next because most men go about this wrong.

Here’s what to do when your ex girlfriend reaches out after a long time of no contact.

The next mistake is a big “trap” that almost all guys fall into.

4. Trying to Convince Her to “Get Back Together” With You

We men are impatient.

When we get the opportunity to get our ex girlfriend back, we jump the gun and try to quickly get things how they were before.

So we try too hard to convince our ex to be our girlfriend again.

The problem is this is that you’re skipping the steps required to attracting a girl, and making her want to be your girlfriend.

And when you try to get the relationship label back, before her attraction for you is high enough, you push the girl away.

This is why trying to get the relationship back is mistake #2 in this report.

Instead, start from the beginning.

In particular, avoid playing the “boyfriend role”… and learn to play the “lover role”.

5. Playing the “Boyfriend” Role… and Not The “Lover” Role

Focus on being the lover and having fun.

When women notice that you want to get into a “serious relationship”… and that you emotionally depend on posessing her as your girlfriend to feel good about yourself… that’s when things change and she starts texting you less.

Because she’s lost attraction for you.

Once you pressure her into being your girlfriend again… she gets ANNOYED. And then she becomes distant, starts ignoring your texts, and says things like “I’m not ready for a relationship”… or “I need space”.

Instead, focus on just FUN, without any commitment.

If she misses you and wants to see you, set up fun dates that lead to “getting physical”… and you should be able to attract her easily and have her back in your life, texting you first and excited to see you…

But as long as you don’t…

Don’t bring up feelings
Don’t bring up “getting back together”
Don’t talk about past mistakes
Don’t get into “relationship talk” and try to convince her to be your “official” girlfriend again.

Remember: Be the LOVER, not the boyfriend.

How You Become “Officially” Together Again

As time goes by, something very interesting happens.

She’s becoming more attracted to you, and realizes that you’re not pressuring her, causing her to fall more and more in love with you… and that’s when she starts asking you things like: “So, what are we?”

Let the woman be the one to bring up “getting together”.

See, feminine energy talks about bonding, getting into relationships, the “meaning of us”, etc etc.

Masculine energy wants to be free, and it sets up the logistics and conditions for “things” to happen.

Feminine energy tries to capture masculine energy. The woman wants to cage the masculine into a committed relationship.

But masculine energy doesn’t want to be caged up in a committed relationship, with just any woman.

That’s why a man who has his stuff together, and who has many options doesn’t jump into a relationship with the first girl who gives him attention and makes him feel good about himself.

No, the woman has to be special… he usually dates her for several months before he realizes he really “clicks” with her.

“But this girl I love is really special, she is different and I really want to be in a relationship with her”… I can hear you say.

Yes, you may feel this way. But here’s the thing… you are in a cloud of emotions that is distorting your thinking right now. You feel “in love” with this girl because of the validation she gives you. You feel she’s the only girl in the world for you, it’s something your mind does to you when you feel in scarcity.

When you’re obsessed like this, you have “ONEITIS.”

However, if you had lots of options of hot girls to choose from, would you still be so in love with this girl? Because that is the real test right there. You’re with her because of how you really click with her, how well she treats you, and the magic chemistry you feel with her compared to other girls you’ve been also dating.

When you’re making the decision coming from ABUNDANCE, and not scarcity thinking… it’s much better than becoming obsessed with a girl and trying to lock her down as your girlfriend.