If your girlfriend lost feelings for you, then this is the most important article you’ve ever going to read.
Especially if:
- You have a girl you care about who is pulling away
- You don’t know why she’s losing feelings
- You’re worried you’ll lose her forever
- You’re afraid she has an eye on another guy
Knowing what to do when she pulls away is critical to getting her attraction level to come back.
You have to stop making the same mistakes that caused her to lose feelings in the first place.
In this article, we’ll go through a question from a reader who is in this very same situation as you.
You’ll learn:
- The #1 reason women fade away
- Why women often don’t know *why* they lose feelings for you
- How to trigger her feelings back
Ok let’s start with the question from our good friend Jerry.
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Question From a Reader: Girlfriend Lost Feelings and Doesn’t Know Why
I gotta say the report is very good. I never looked at it from that point of view.
But I got a few questions regarding my situation specifically and what I could do to resolve it.
The thing is, me and my ex rushed it. No doubt.
Things were great at first and she seemed madly in love with me… but around January she started growing distant.
She didn’t seem as eager to hang out with me, using the excuse that her parents didn’t allow her to go out.
She stopped taking initiative in the relationship altogether, which led me to chase her and to tell her that I thought something was wrong.
When she broke up with me she claimed she was unsure of her feelings because of all the stress she was getting from me, her parents, and school.
It left me confused and frustrated because it came out of nowhere and I struggle to find out why she really lost feelings for me.
While she claims she doesn’t know what happened to her feelings, I had noticed differences in her body language during the last month.
That means she must’ve been conscious of that even though she claimed she wasn’t. Still she did sort of freak out and lowkey “fight for me” when I tried giving her a “taste of her own medicine” by showing her little to no attention.
I’m so confused.
According to your “7 Dangerous Mistakes report” you’re saying that I acted weak with her and that made her lose attraction towards me.
But if that’s the case, if I always have to show my strong and masculine side towards her, what’s the point of getting back with her if I can’t be myself? Like I felt really comfortable in the relationship because I could be myself, and I knew she loved me for who I was. I don’t wanna be with a girl if I can’t be myself.
Jerry
My Reply: Something Made Her Feel Pressured
Hey Jerry, when I read “the stress she was getting from me”… it makes me think something made her feel smothered and caused her to seek space.
Maybe there was too much “relationship pressure” and she had to fulfill her “girlfriend duties” of having to always text you or hang out with you. I don’t know what it is, but something made her feel that way.
According to law #1 of female psychology, “Women fade when you crowd their space”. So if a woman feels smothered, she will pull away to sort her feelings out.
The thing is that oftentimes women aren’t sure why they feel this way.
Logically, she might know you are a great boyfriend for her, but emotionally there is something that feels off… and it’s something she can’t explain.
One common cause is if you do too many things for her. Are you doing too many favors that don’t get reciprocated? If you’re do all the work, but she doesn’t contribute as much, and then she will feel like something is off.
I wrote an article detailing this type of situation here:
https://championsofmen.com/why-is-she-so-cold-and-distant-when-your-girlfriend-pulls-away-avoid-this-mistake/
You might resonate with it.
Now, to answer your last email, what do you mean by feeling you can’t be yourself?
“Strong and masculine” here doesn’t mean what most people take it to mean traditionally. It’s not about being macho and manly all the time (at least not the typical image we have in our heads).
The meaning of masculine is doing what you want to do and sticking with it, setting boundaries for your time and energy, and having purpose. This is actually closer to “being yourself”.
The problem is when men sacrifice their power and their principles in order to please a woman who doesn’t return the affection.
In that case then you are sacrificing yourself and your needs… which is the opposite of being yourself.
This is what happens when a woman goes distant and the guy keeps chasing her, he is putting energy on someone who doesn’t value him…(sacrificing himself).
***His Reply***
Thanks, I think I get it now.
All this advice is really helpful, and I found out from a close friend that she lost her feelings for me because of the pressure like you said. She wanted to be a little more free.
Then I found out she slept with a guy just two weeks after we broke up and I can’t quite explain what happened.
All my bottled up feelings exploded and I blew up her phone with texts.
It was my fault and I’m taking it on my chest knowing not to commit the same mistake with my future girlfriend but as of now I’m pretty sure my ex resents me so I’m not gonna try anything more now.
Still thank you for your help so far
Jerry
Key Takeaways From Jerry’s Story
Initially, his girlfriend didn’t know why she was losing feelings… and then over time she figured out it was because he was crowding her space too much. The pressure made her feel like she was losing her freedom.
So if a girl just broke up with you, take the reason she gives you with a grain of salt… it might be a “rationalized” reason, and not the *real* reason your girlfriend lost feelings of attraction.
Furthermore, she might not even admit she’s losing feelings.
See, women often “sugarcoat” how they really feel.
You’ll notice she’s fading, and then ask her what’s wrong, but then she’ll convince you everything’s fine, making you think you’re just imagining things.
This gives you a false sense of security that everything’s “OK” because you are still officially together and everything’s fine…
Until one day, the breakup catches you by surprise.
That’s why you should pay attention to her behavior more than to her words.
In addition, make sure you avoid the common mistakes that cause her to lose feelings.
I cover them in my free 7 Dangerous Mistakes report.
I bet there’s one mistake that you made without even realizing it. (Mistake #4 is particularly sneaky)
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