Girlfriend Needs Space? Here’s How to Get Her Back + 1 Tricky Mistake to Avoid

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It’s horrifying when your girlfriend needs space.

You are worried she is fading away and you don’t want to let her go.

So you feel you need to do something right now… or risk losing her forever.

It’s weird because she was saying how much she loved you last week, but this week she has gone distant all of a sudden.

If this all rings a bell, and a girl is going “hot and cold” on you in similar fashion… then keep reading as I explain exactly how to re-attract a fading girlfriend.

In particular, you’ll learn 1 tricky mistake men make when their girlfriend needs space… so you’ll want to stay tuned.

3 Emails From Students

Below are 3 questions from students who all have girlfriends that need space.

I’m willing to bet you a doughnut that you resonate with at least one of them.

Let’s start with the first…

Question #1: Girl Fell in Love With Me But Now There’s a Change in Her Behavior

Hello sir, I hope you are doing well.

My name is Paul and I met a girl 2 months ago.

We fell in love and we have been sharing sweet moments and purely love messages.

She assured me how she’s ready to love me forever.

I would call her we talk anytime I wanted.

But now things seem to have changed

Because when I try calling her sometimes she doesn’t pick and she doesn’t call me back.

On WhatsApp she replies after like 10 minutes which is so unusual.

When I try to ask her what’s happening she says everything is fine, we are fine, she loves me.

But I have noticed a change in her behavior…

So I want you to help me because I love her so much.

Thank you,
Paul

My Reply: You Overpursued and Now She Needs Space

Hey Paul,

She seems a bit distant.

Your biggest mistake right now would be to overpursue.

To send her multiple messages wondering “what’s wrong?” and trying to get an answer.

The problem is that she needs a bit of space.

You must give her that space to make things go back to normal.

But if you question her, and try to “do more” in order to get her attention back, it will drive her away, she will become more distant, and she will lose all attraction she’s got left.

So what do you do?

Stop contacting her, unless she contacts you first.

How long? It’s perfectly ok to go several days with no contact.

Be prepared to go even two weeks of no contact.

Let her reach out.

Creating this space is crucial for getting her attraction back.

Most guys are unable to do this. They get nervous that she is fading, and so they get the urge to text the girl.

Persistently reaching out to a distant girl who wants space is the 1 tricky mistake that can push her away for good.

I understand that the feelings of anxiety can force you to text her because you want the reassurance that everything is “ok”… but texting her and crowding her space will only make things “not ok”.

Trust the process and give her space.

Here’s a related article that is perfect for you:
https://championsofmen.com/why-is-she-so-cold-and-distant-when-your-girlfriend-pulls-away-avoid-this-mistake/

Frankie

Question #2: Girlfriend Needs Space, How to Get Her Back?

Hi Frankie

Thanks for your eBook on how to get your ex girlfriend back. I made all of the mistakes that you mentioned in your eBook.

I have known this girl for a long time… she was previously married and had a daughter. Now she has been divorced for a couple of years.

Last year, she started talking to me and things got nice between us… but then all of sudden she pulled back saying she liked someone else.

So I left it and moved on with my life.

I started working out and looked after myself. Got in shape. Focused on business… then at the beginning of this year, she contacted me again and asked if she can train with me.

She started reaching out to me more.

And started making food for me… doing little favors… prepping me lunches and dinners.

We went for a walk on the beach one beautiful afternoon, and we held hands. This moment was when my “feelings” started.

The following weekend I went to her place for coffee, and while we were sitting on the couch she said that she loved me, and I was quiet for a bit because it was shocking, but then I replied with “I love you too”.

Next week, our country went into lockdown for the COVID pandemic.

So we stayed at the same place.

However, soon I started working again, so she asked me to go stay at my place instead. Which I understood, safety first.

But during this time she became quite distant.

So I thought of getting creative and wrote her a letter and dropped it off before going to work.

She said she appreciated it and told me that she loved me a lot, but that it was not the right time to take things further.

That gave me hope…

But then she went distant again.

She spent the whole week without talking to me and once again I got worried.

So I thought “okay I will do the letter thing again”…

“But I will only send her the letter and I will respect her decision to not take things further.”

And then all hell broke loose…

She got annoyed and said she can’t be in a relationship right now due to the tough times and the pandemic.

She got angry at a few things and started blaming me for stuff.

She didn’t take my feelings into consideration and doesn’t know what she wants and this second time she almost dropped me… and I want to prevent that from happening again.

I still love her and I want to make this work, what should I do?

Jake

My Reply: A Fading Girl Needs Space to Sort Her Feelings Out

Hey Jake,

Things were great at first, and then there came a point when she got distant.

That in itself still wasn’t too bad… the real problem started when you kept pursuing.

See, when a girl needs space, the prescription is to give her space.

But if you send sweet letters to a fading girl as an attempt to win back her attention, that crowds her space and makes the problem worse.

The problem isn’t that you weren’t sweet and caring.

The problem is that she needs space and time to sort her emotions out.

Next, things worsened when you tried pushing the “relationship label”.

I repeat: Making a “move” to take the relationship to the next level, will only push a woman away when the problem is that she needs space.

So in the future when you interact, don’t bring up the relationship label.

Only focus on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up…

Without talking about feelings or bringing up “relationship” topics.

Wait for her to bring up “getting together”.

Let the woman “open her heart” first (just like she did when she first said “I love you”.)

What to do now: No Contact

Go no contact until she reaches out.

If she texts you, don’t ignore her.

No contact means no texts, until she reaches out.

Question #3: Girlfriend Wants Space, How to Get Her Back?

Dear friend,

I would like to congratulate you on your eBook, it really helped me.

I have been together 1 year with my girlfriend.

She is from another country and she studies in my city.

She want back to her home country 3 weeks ago due to the coronavirus outbreak.

During the first week, everything was perfect… she told me things she had never said before.

The second week was weird and she was a bit colder.

So I got sad of the situation and told her that she doesn’t talk to me anymore etc. etc.

Then she stopped replying to me for 3 days after I told her that.

Three days later, she said she needed time to think.

She said she had a lot on her mind… and me giving her space was the only way for her to think.

Then the next morning she said she believes that we don’t have a future and that sooner or later  we would break up but its not what she wants… she wants to keep talking and make things better.

Two days later she told me that she hasn’t decided yet and she needs time to think.

I barely just came to my senses after a week of insanity and I will follow your words, Frankie.

But what do we do under the coronavirus shit? I dont even know when I’m going to see her again.

I really hope you see this and advise me, thank you a lot!!!

Best,

Gary

My Reply: She Got Overwhelmed and Needs Space

Hey Gary,

She gave you positive messages.

You became addicted to that validation.

But then when she took the validation away, it made you sad and you started asking her why she stopped talking to you…

Which pushed her away even more.

See, she probably got overwhelmed at first and wanted space.

But when you didn’t give her that space, she got even colder.

In that moment, you had to pull back a bit and let her come to you.

Instead, you crowded her space too much by always wanting to text her…

…and this completely smothered her.

Which is why she got repulsed and started saying she doesn’t see a future with you.

At this point, you feel that break up is coming.

But hopefully you are coming back to mind.

Follow the advice in my articles and give her space.

Don’t contact her anymore, until she contacts you first.

When she does contact you, don’t ask her “have you made up your mind yet?”

Don’t ask her ANY “relationship label” type of questions.

Only focus on light, fun, playful conversation topics.

After your conversation, don’t reach out again, until she does.

Let her be the one who initiates.

If you Facetime, make sure it’s only once a week.

In other words, make your phone call dates or FaceTime “dates” only once a week.

That’s how you get her attraction back.

Whenever my students email me saying “my girlfriend needs space, how to get her back?”

…in their minds they think they have to “do something” in order to win her attention back.

They feel they need to do a “big move” that shows her how much they care.

However, the prescription here is to “do nothing”, and to… give her space!

Only space will allow her to “reset” her emotions and once again feel attraction for you.

And if you want to learn a simple series of steps you can take… starting right now… to “re-attract” your ex girlfriend and change the way she feels about you, watch the video here:

Free Video: How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

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