Let’s talk about ways to boost confidence with women.
How do you actually become “MORE CONFIDENT” with girls? What changes in your mind when you “build” confidence feel good about yourself?
In this article I will give you the secret key building confidence with women.
This is actually very simple to understand… but most men don’t get it.
However, once you “get” this very simple concept of confidence and courage, you will easily spot ways to boost confidence with women — you’ll be like Neo seeing the Matrix.
2 Types of Confidence
There are two ways to have confidence. One is “competent” confidence, which means you’re already good at it so you have confidence.
That one’s easy. Everyone knows that everything’s simple when things are going well.
The second way to have confidence is the one that matters most. It’s a gift from the universe that helps you TRANSFORM. This second way to have confidence is to gain it by doing “courage.”
How to “DO” Courage
Courage is basically “walking through the fire” even though every nerve in your body is telling you not to do it. It’s feeling the fear, but doing it anyways.
We shouldn’t really walk through fires, of course, but approaching women or trying to act a certain way with them can be equally frightening.
This happens because your ancient brain is telling you that if you approach this girl, you will get savagely clubbed in the head by the alpha male of the tribe.
This doesn’t really happen anymore. That was so ten thousand years ago. But that old part in our brains still generates approach anxiety to put a brake to our actions when we want to approach a girl.
And this can be very conflicting. It’s like pressing the accelerator and the “brake” pedal at the same time. While one part of your brains says “I see sexy woman, I must approach” …that other part is saying “don’t do it!”
So this is when courage comes in. When you do courage by walking up to women and saying hi. You prove to your ancient brain that if you do that action, you won’t die.
Your brain thinks “I approached girl. I said hi. I’m still alive” — and you immediately get a rush of confidence that allows you to approach more and more women… leading to an upwards spiral of confidence and positivity.
That’s why best way to raise your confidence level is to go up and approach women over and over again.
You can start by just saying hi. Level two, make small talk. Next, try to hold the conversation longer. Then, you inject some statements of intent. (You give proof to your brain that if a woman knows you want her sexually, you won’t die… everything’s going to be alright)
The important thing to know is that even if you get rejected, you will get confidence back, because you took ACTION.
The Path to Success is Massive Action
More specifically, the path to building confidence with women is repeated acts of courage, over and over again.
That’s how you become confident with women really really fast.
