How to Get Your Girlfriend to Respect You (3 Keys to Setting Boundaries With Women)

Loss of Respect Erodes Relationships…

It’s the sad truth.

When you sense your girlfriend is losing respect for you, it manifests in a number of ways.

• She easily gets annoyed by you
• Treats you poorly
• She is controlling, neurotic, domineering
• She nags you
• Lectures you
• Isn’t eager to see you
• Isn’t interested in sex anymore (if anything, you have to practically beg for it)

If this is happening to you, keep reading to learn how to get your girlfriend to respect you, before the problem gets worse and she decides to leave you.

How to Win a Woman’s Respect Back

Core Principle: Set Boundaries

Loss of respect is a boundary problem.

So if a woman lost respect, that means somewhere along the line, you failed to set boundaries.

Most likely you avoided setting boundaries in order to please her, to keep her from getting angry, and to avoid confrontation.

But when you don’t set boundaries, you give your power away… which chips away at her respect and attraction for you… until she dumps you and there’s no love or respect left.

That’s why setting boundaries with women is important, and failure to do so leads to tragic heartbreak.

Now I know how you feel, because I’ve been there. In fact every guy experiences something like this at some point in his “dating career”.

And unless you have access to this “dating advice” knowledge to begin with… it’s all too easy to become a nice, overly-accommodating, uninteresting, predictable, boring boyfriend that causes his girlfriend to lose respect.

Even though it seems logical that a woman should love to be treated like a queen at all times… you’ve probably found out, just like I have, that this combination usually leads to a woman either:

1. Leaving you
2. Losing her respect and becoming increasingly controlling, domineering, and neurotic

Ok so I just mentioned that loss of respect is a “boundary problem”…

Now let’s dive deeper into “setting boundaries with women”.

So…

Here are 3 Keys to Setting Boundaries With a Woman and Getting Her Respect Back

Key #1. Don’t Accept Poor Treatment

• Don’t reward mistreatment with attention
• Don’t accept second-class behavior
• Set a boundary that blocks off poor treatment

Key #2. Be Willing to Walk Away

• When you’re weak, you’re willing to accept poor treatment because you feel you are empty without your girlfriend in your life. (You feel you’re worse off  walking away)
• However, this makes your girlfriend feel she can do anything and walk all over you… she completely loses your respect and thinks you are weak.
• Instead, respect yourself and be willing to walk away from poor treatment… and in turn your girlfriend will gain your respect. 

Key #3. Value and Respect Yourself

• Value yourself, respect yourself, regain positive emotions from the inside
• If a woman doesn’t like you and you still think “I can’t live without her”… you aren’t being kind to yourself
• Instead, respect yourself more and look for someone who actually values you
• Guys who are in a “scarcity” mindset, fall into a well of desperation
  because they’re dependent on “the one girl” to give them positive emotions
• What would James Bond do? Can you picture James Bond sticking around with a girl who treats him like dirt? Hell no. He would quickly move on to something better. Because he treats his time and attention like a *GIFT* he gives to women. You should too.

“Ok I get it Frankie, setting boundaries with women is important… but what do you do if you already screwed up?”

Now I will go over 3 questions from my students.

Each of them is experiencing a loss of respect from their girlfriend.

Read through and see if you resonate with any of their scenarios… it might help you come up with a plan on what to do next.

I also invite you to notice how each of the scenarios below contain at least one of the 3 “boundary mistakes” that I detailed above.

Let’s start with the first question…

Question #1: My fiancée is very temperamental and stubborn.

She says she loves me, but each time we have an argument, she insults me, gets very mad at me… and then sometimes uses an indirect way to show that she is sorry but without saying it verbally.

My question is: Does she really love me? Is she worth it spending the rest of my life with her?

– Randy

My Reply: It’s Worth it to Stand Up For Yourself

Hey Randy,

Good question. I feel that if she mistreats you and you let her treat you badly, she will feel she can walk all over you and it’ll make her lose attraction.

So make sure you stand up for yourself.

But by asking yourself “is it worth it?” it means you’re putting yourself first.
which is good. Because you’re the priority.

Basically, you should put up boundaries as to how you should be treated, don’t accept second-class treatment, and be willing to walk away.

Although it might feel risky at first, you’re valuing yourself, respecting yourself, and you’ll notice the woman respect you more as well. 

His Reply

Ooh Frankie thank you very much, your therapy worked for me after I applied it.

My fiancée is now back to me, she cares and loves me more, we now play a lot, make love as usual, communicate, cuddle, name it, I can feel renewed in our relationship, the feeling is high again.

I started focusing on myself, set my boundaries as you told me, and my fiancée now values and respects me. 

Thanks to you Frankie

My Reply

Hey Randy, that’s awesome! Good job

Question #2: How to Get Your Girlfriend to Respect You?

Good day Frankie,

I read your report on how to get your ex back and I must say it’s revealing and eye-opening.

Kudos to you!

However, Frankie, my case is quite different in the sense that we are still in a relationship.

It doesn’t feel like that though… and she has exhibited all the features you outlined in your report such as:

• She doesn’t respect me
• She gets irritated over little things I do or say
• She makes it difficult whenever I propose to hang out. I have to work harder to get her to have sex with me (it’s almost as if I’m begging).

I really love her but it feels like she doesn’t love me anymore and we have been dating for 3 months now.

I am confused and I don’t know the steps to take in order to get her attracted to me again.

P.S.

I am also guilty of showing her too much love, being too nice, and being a great guy doing favors for her.

But I want this to change.

I hope this isn’t too long a read for you and I appreciate your anticipated response.

Kind Regards,
Stan

My Reply: Here’s What to do When Your Girlfriend Starts Fading

Hey Stan, glad the material has helped.

When your girlfriend is fading it’s important to identify what’s going on and make a change, or it will lead to a break up.

How often do you communicate with her?

I ask because if you’re pursuing too much by texting every day, it isn’t giving her the space she needs for her attraction to come back.

She likely feels crowded so space is needed to let her breathe. So right now, don’t do anything and let her reach out first.

Now it’s ok if you go a week without contact. It can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking that backing off makes the girl fade more, but if you keep pursuing  when she’s cold, that’s the one thing that makes her fade away the most.

Have a read of these two articles, they should be useful:

https://championsofmen.com/why-is-she-so-cold-and-distant-when-your-girlfriend-pulls-away-avoid-this-mistake/

and

https://championsofmen.com/why-is-she-acting-distant-all-of-a-sudden-3-traps-to-avoid/

His Reply

Thank You, Frankie!!

I have read the articles and I will definitely adhere to them.

I asked her to come over to my place yesterday but she gave me an excuse. I, however, called her twice and she didn’t answer nor call me back. So I have decided not to reach out to her until she reaches out to me.

I did as you advised and haven’t reached out to her since my last email.

She, however, called me this afternoon saying she wants to check up on me.

I proceeded to ask her if she wants to hang out or meet up later and she got mad saying I didn’t call her since yesterday and that she doesn’t want to see me.

I’m wondering if I should text her that she should let me know if she changes her mind. 

Thanks Frankie. I will let you know how it goes.

– Stan

My Reply

Hey Stan, yes that sounds like a good reply.

Also, logistics wise, whenever you ask her to meet up, it’s best that you ask her to come over (make the date location at your place)

Interesting, she gets “mad” if you don’t call for two days.

Don’t react to that, you have a life and can’t always be calling.

Also, she’s at a stage where she gets irritated by little things that don’t matter.

The fact that you didn’t call (or whatever she complains about) isn’t the actual problem.

Instead, a woman getting all irritated could mean loss of respect.

But when you start setting boundaries and aren’t always contacting her, or trying to please her, that is how you get her respect back.

Again: Take everything she complains about with a grain of salt. The real issue is lack of respect, not the thing she complains about.

Right now in general it’s best to go no contact and let her reach out to you first. Even a full week no contact is acceptable, so don’t worry.

His Reply

Hey Frankie!

I texted her to “let me know if she changes her mind” and she responded that if she didn’t call me first, it wouldn’t have occurred to me that I want to see her… so she ranted for a while and I stood my ground and didn’t call her again.

She later called me and we argued about me not calling her back.

Then I asked her over the phone again about hanging out with her. Which she agreed to. So I walked down to her house and we just talked for a while and I left.

Right now, I can say we are good after I told her I didn’t feel the spark in the
relationship especially with the way she goes cold on me but she tried saying it wasn’t true and she didn’t notice.

She has since been putting effort by calling me and texting me without me texting first, a little joke here and there, feeling less tense for now. I am still watching to see how it goes.

Thanks Frankie! Your no contact rule worked for me in a short period of time or at least I want to believe it did.

– Stan

My Reply

Good, keep letting her come to you.

If she’s arguing and causing drama, remove yourself from the conversation.

It’s better than asking her over. Ask her over only when she’s being nice, not as a method to make progress.

See, you don’t want to reward negativity. Also don’t walk over to her house if she’s acting that way.

You can say something like “reach out when you’re ready to be nice”.

Sure she might react even more dramatic, but this girl seems very immature anyways.

Ok now let’s move on to question #3.

Question #3: How to Get My Ex Back When She’s Already Thinking of Another Guy

Thank you very much sir… this newsletter was what I was looking for because I really need someone to advise me how to get my head straight and how to get my ex back…

But my problem now is, she’s already thinking of someone else… another guy.

Also, I just had a conversation with my ex and she told me the truth:

That it’s my attitude that pushed her away.

She said she doesn’t feel anything for me anymore and there is nothing I can do to change her mind.

What can I do to make her fall for me again?

Because right now I feel like there is no hope for me and I need your help please, cause I can’t live without her.

She even said she is giving me advice about my attitude so that when I go into my next relationship I won’t do the same mistakes I did with her.

So please I want to know if it’s really over for me, or if I still have a chance.

It seems that she means what she said from her voice and I can tell she’s not into me anymore, and there is nothing I can do to change her mind. She even said I can never change her mind again and I should move on.

First she blocked me on social media and Whatsapp, but after our conversation, she stopped blocking me.

But I need to know the truth, do I still have a chance or not?

– Irving

My Reply: If You Change Your “Attitude” She Can Become Attracted in the Future

Hey Irving,

Wow, that’s rare that she told you what caused her to lose attraction.

Did she give you any specific details of what about your attitude turned her off?

She said there is nothing to change her mind at this very moment, because at this moment she feels no attraction for you.

However, attraction isn’t “set in stone”, so she can become attracted in the future if you do change your attitude.  (You can totally do this)

But first, if you’re ever going to have a chance to get her back, you must get over her.

See, when you’re emotionally dependent on one woman to feel good about yourself, the woman is going to sense your weakness instantly.

She will never be able to love or respect you if you’re weak like that.

So if you’re still saying “I can’t live without her” then you have to value and respect yourself more until you think “I can live without her”…and “I want her, but I don’t NEED her”.

A woman wants a man who’s emotionally strong and centered. She wants an anchor she can go to when her emotions fluctuate wildly. If a man gets emotionally unbalance by HER, then she can’t trust him to be strong when things REALLY do get tough.

I suggest you have a look at this article that shows you how to be anchored to your “purpose”.

From now on, don’t contact anymore and focus on valuing yourself more.

Re-learn how to live without her so you can make yourself strong and attract her back into your life. 

That’s how you get your girlfriend to respect you.

In the mean time, I recommend that you check out the Ex Factor program — it shows you how to make your ex girlfriend fall in love with you again.

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