Your wife is in love with another man, and you’re crushed.
Over the past several months, she has been fading away, and you don’t know why.
You’ve tried everything to convince her. You’ve pleaded, asked her for another chance, bought her gifts, flowers…
But nothing worked. She remains uninterested.
You long for the old days… you’d give anything to make her love you again and to restore your relationship to how it was before.
If you’re confused, in pain, and unsure if you’ll ever be able to make your wife love you again, then keep reading.
In this article, I’ll reveal specific directions to re-attract your wife again.
Especially if:
- Your wife is currently having an affair
- You want to get her back from the other guy
- You long for the way things were before, when she called you “pet names”, was eager to spend time with you, talked about your future together, and had sex often
- You want to feel like you’ve done the best you can to get her back. After I reveal to you by strategy, no more will you exhaust your brain thinking of what else you could do… the plan will be laid out, focus on the plan (which I’ll reveal).
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Now let’s start with the first question from Eric.
In this case-study, Eric is going through a very difficult time.
His wife, Sarah left him for another guy. He is in deep pain.
While they still talk, and things are a bit better, she is still seeing the other guy. Sarah says Eric is good to her, and she knows she *should* come back to him… yet she still can’t help but be with the other guy.
What should Eric do? I give him some tips below.
***Question***
How Do I Get My Wife Back From an Affair?
Hi Frankie,
Thanks a lot for your tips and ideas!
They pushed me through today even though I am still in a really heavy and difficult situation…the challenge of my life…
I don’t know, but maybe you could give me some tips…
My wife (we have been together for 13 years and have 3 children) was cheating on me for 10 months and I found out in late December 2019.
Quite recent, I know…
I wanted to die. She is the most honest and true woman in the world but something happened.
She had been distancing herself from me for the past couple of years due to the fact that I did not give her enough attention and was too concentrated on my work, sport, etc… but I didn’t give her attention and she was alone.
She met a guy, 11years older (49) who gave her attention, and shit happened.
But now I want her back.
Whatever happened, I love her more than anything.
She says that she sees that I’ve changed myself in the past 7 months and I could give her everything that she needs (attention, love, security, a loving family, etc)… and in her head she wants to come back… but her heart is with this other guy.
She cried and said that I am a good man, that I’m good to her, and that she did not want to hurt me… but it’s too late for that.
I’ve been living the past 10 days with my children and my wife is coming each day at the afternoons for 6-8 hours and then leaves in the evening.
She says she needs time to think and the best case would be if she could love me again…
I tried to convince her, wrote her love messages, sent music, bought nice things… but unfortunately I realized I pursued her too much when she said she felt pushed into a corner with no air to breathe.
She asked me for time and space, and wanted to speak “minimally” and nothing about “us”.
I finally understood her and since January, I don’t text her until she does and she writes less.
I still tell her that I love her more than anything etc… but I write and speak about these things less. I try not to bring up the other guy and I really believe that in the long run, that person is not an option for her.
Since I’ve changed my approach, things are much better… but still not perfect.
I can’t always control what I say and I often fall into the role of being too nice and talking about my love for her and how I wish everything could be perfect now.
But now as I’m not texting as much, she writes me and I receive small smiles with a heart etc. She gives me a hug and a kiss but only on my face. We’ve had no other physical contact for several months.
At least the hug and “kiss on the face” came back recently…
She’s saying that what I’ve been doing for the past 3 days could be the only way for her to be attracted again… but it will not be a short journey as she was hurt (not being listened and understood) for a long time (6years?).
She is kind to me, saying that I Iook good, that I’m a good man, and that she knows that she could now have everything she needs(listening, understanding, etc.) from me.
So the attraction is partly there I guess…
But she says she “loves”? (I guess she only thinks that) that man (age 49 not sporty, me 38, active and have high level in sports) now and that’s why she’s slowly letting me in closer.
That man has been married for 22 years, with two small children.
His wife kicked him out in mid November. Now the guy is living in a room in his lawyer-office. My wife is also staying there during the evenings.
Sex is not important for them and since this came out, the deal is that there is no sex, but she can sleep and stay there. She is now honest and not lying anymore…
She told me that for the past 3 days we’ve been on the right (but long) track of getting back together.
My question, if you could help me:
- What am I doing wrong?
- What could and should I do to get her back from that guy?
- How should I communicate and how should I carry myself (what and how?)
- How would it be possible to get her back and what should I do?
- What to avoid
- How long do you think that it could take to get her back?
I would appreciate any idea and info from you.
She is the woman of my life and I love her more than anything else.
Thanks lot if you could help me,
Eric
>>>My Comments
Hey Eric, I’m sorry you are going through this.
The main problem I see here is this:
While she “logically” think of you as a good guy in her head, she emotionally needs to feel more attracted to fall in love again.
This is important because the “emotional” part of her brain is what counts. Attraction isn’t affected by what she logically thinks, but by what she “FEELS”.
How to re-attract her again?
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The usual things people do don’t work… because they only target her “logic” side.
Things like…
- Trying to convince her to take you back by using “logic”
- Writing romantic messages
- Sending love songs
- Buying her gifts
- Being “more romantic” in your interactions with her as an attempt to re-spark how things used to be
As I explain in my 3 dangerous myths article, doing these things won’t work, because they don’t do anything to raise her attraction level back up.
You may be tempted to think that you have to do “more romantic things” to attract a woman… but as you realized after months of trying and failing, these things didn’t change her “feelings” for you.
Instead, this behavior made her feel smothered, and it turned her away from you.
She got overwhelmed and wanted space to breathe. Which is why right now it’s important to give her space and time.
The way you carry yourself determines whether or not you can get her attraction level up again.
A big part of this is to be strong at your core… and I’ll explain what that means.
See, whenever a woman goes distant, she removes her validation away from you.
This can cause most guys to become “weakened” because the girl isn’t giving them attention anymore… and this desperation gives them a strong urge to CHASE to get her back.
You don’t want to do that.
Don’t be a sailboat flailing in the winds of a hurricane. Instead, think of yourself as a big mountain, and she is the clouds going around you. You don’t chase her, or go anywhere. You are strong at your core, unaffected by the storm.
This means you’re “OK” with space away from her without freaking out and becoming weak.
You want to provide the space she needs to fall in love with you again.
So it’s best to go no contact.
In your case, you can’t be in full no contact because you have kids. So go no contact within certain conversation topics regarding your relationship status, asking her about her feelings, or whether you’ll be back together again.
At the same time, focus on yourself, work, hobbies, passions so that you have other things to think about.
It’s critical that you value and respect yourself (remember she was the one who cheated).
So no more pursuing from your side. Set boundaries and let in only those who value you. Hence, wait for her to be the one to initiate “relationship talk”.
This plan and mentality I just gave not only gives you the best chance of making her fall in love again, but it also helps you recover and feel stronger at your core.
In particular, this video reveals a simple series of steps you can take… starting right now… to “re-attract” your wife and change the way she feels about you.
So I suggest that you watch it now.
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Make it happen!
Frankie
