Sleeping With Ex Girlfriend Who Has a Boyfriend

So you’ve been sleeping with your ex girlfriend who has a boyfriend.

Now what? What does this all mean? Can you get her back?

You’re probably so confused.

You want her all to yourself… as YOUR girlfriend.

Because you still love her deeply.

You want to get what you had before in the past…

But the other guy is an obstacle.

How do you make her leave him and come running straight to your arms?

Read on, as you learn the 4 keys to win her back and make her all yours.

Your competition is probably not doing any of these 4 things…

…which is how you WIN.

Pay close attention and learn how to gain the upper hand.

Let’s go through an email from a student…

Question: Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend But Still Sleeps With Me

Hey Frankie,

So I’m in a situation where I literally just banged my ex not even hour ago…

However, she has a boyfriend.

I did “no contact” for a month and we just reconnected.

I love this girl, we lived together for a long time, and I’m stuck on what to do here… I really really want her back. 

– Steve

My Reply: When You’re Sleeping With an Ex Who Has a Boyfriend, Here’s How to Make Her Choose You

Hey Steve,

I suggest to let her come to you. Let her initiate, then when she does only focus on casual fun.

Don’t bring up anything serious, or try to put a label on it, because that will push her away.

After a number of fun, sexy dates that lead to sex, she’ll bring up “relationship label” topics.

She’ll say “let’s talk about us”, or she’ll ask “so, what are we?” …and that’s
how you turn her into a girlfriend. But you have to let her bring it up first.

What about her “relationship status” with the other guy?

Go by her behavior, not something she said in the past, or the “official” status of her relationship with the new guy.

That relationship isn’t “crystallized”, especially since she has been sleeping with you.

This is How You Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Her New “Boyfriend”

Now listen carefully because this is how you win.

To make her choose you over the other guy and have her back as your girlfriend, you must do the following…

1. Don’t Force the “Relationship Label”

You don’t win by forcing the official “relationship label” and worrying about whether you “have her” or not.

You win by only focusing on fun sexy hookup dates that increase her attraction for you.

Related: Hooking Up With Your Ex Girlfriend? Here’s How to Make Her Official Again

2. Don’t Skip Steps

While you have a history with her, and in the past you were close and intimate, you can’t assume you’re still up there.

You must instead assume you are dating her again and start from the beginning. (Don’t skip steps).

This means you should avoid bringing up any feelings, relationship label talk, or attempt to convince her to “get back together”.

In general, the vibe should be nothing serious at all and only playful fun.

If she feels you love her too much and that you really *NEED* to lock her into a relationship… then she’s going to feel like she’s losing her freedom, and she will fade away from you.

Related Article: 3 Keys to Dating Your Ex Girlfriend Again

3. Regularly Create Space

When you start seeing your ex girlfriend again, you can’t rush in.

Remember #2 above, you must not skip steps.

Let’s say you hang out with your ex and you hook up. Right after that date, you will have an “in-between” period until the next date. 

This part is very important… in between these dates, you must not text her every single day like you’re her boyfriend again.

If you crowd her space, you’ll overwhelm her and she’ll distance herself from you again.

Instead, after the date is over, say “text me” and let her reach out to you.

If she doesn’t reach out for 3 days, that’s totally fine. If she says “ok I’ll text you later”, and she doesn’t, THAT’S FINE TOO!

It isn’t important that things are “set in stone”… or that you’re “certain” about whether she loves you and you have her back.

As men, we want certainty. We want to know 100% that the girl is OURS.

But when you ask a girl about her feelings for you because you want validation of your relationship status… this will “disturb” the process and she will lose attraction.

When you show neediness about the relationship label, she feels constrained, and this applies the brakes to her loving you.

She wants to love you but it’s like you’re pressing both the brakes and accelerator at the same time.

But when you only focus on hanging out, and hooking up… and at the same time you allow her to be free… those are the fundamentals that lead to increasing her attraction. And that’s how you win.

Now if you apply the above advice… you will be behaving in a way most men don’t.

In fact, you’ll be doing something completely different than what your competition is doing.

See, when you’re sleeping with an ex girlfriend who has a boyfriend, it’s a unique situation where the boyfriend probably knows about you and is worried about you.

He wants to keep her as his girlfriend, but you are an obstacle he’s worried about.

And he will start making mistakes…

He will do “more” to get her attention… he will start texting her way more and more… which eventually will push her away.

If he knew any better, he would read this article on how women fade away when men overwhelm them.

You, on the other hand, are sitting back, focusing on yourself, having a life… without draining mental energy on this girl… and this will attract her way more than if you expended energy trying to compete.

4. Women are More Attracted to Men Whose Feelings are Unclear

It’s uncertainty that makes her attracted.

She knows you want to bang her, it already happened so it’s obvious.

But the big question in her mind is… “does he want to be my boyfriend?”

In her eyes, the guy that is texting her more is “serious” about her, he is the one who obviously wants to be her boyfriend.

You on the other hand, are a mystery, because you aren’t all over her 24/7.

How Do You Finally Make Her YOUR Girlfriend?

• Don’t focus on the relationship label.
• Only focus on fun and hook ups.
• Let her bring up the “relationship” topic.

After a number of dates where you sleep with her, she will start to say things like “so… what are we?” …and she want to “talk about us”.

This is when she wants you back badly.

She’ll bring up that topic of “becoming official” …and now you can become official boyfriend and girlfriend.

However, the bringing up of feelings, bonding, relationship labels — that’s a feminine thing, so let the female handle that department. Let her bring up those things.

The masculine on the other hand is all about freedom, not wanting to be constrained. Making plans to get together… arranging the logistics of a date that is both fun, and leads to sex. That’s what your mental energy should focus on.

This is why when a girl has 2 guys to choose from, the guy who wants to constrain her into a relationship will lose!

She will choose the man whose feelings are more “unclear”. The one whose behavior is more “masculine” not the “feminine” one who is overly romantic trying to force her into a relationship. 

She will chase the lover who enjoys her company and wants to bang, but isn’t too serious about getting into a relationship with her yet. 

Because when you have an “abundance” mentality, a relationship takes time. You’re in no rush… you don’t jump into a relationship with the first girl who gives you attention… you follow the process.

In particular, this video reveals a process you can you can go through…  starting right now… to “re-attract” your ex girlfriend and change the way she feels about you.

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Question: She Has a Boyfriend But is Sleeping With Me

My ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend but she still sleeps with me.

I still love her and want her back, but apparently she just wants to sleep with me.

How do I get her back and make her choose me over the other guy?

– Bob

My Reply: She Isn’t “Girlfriend” Material if She Has a Boyfriend and Still Sleeps With You

Hey Bob, if your ex girlfriend cheats on her boyfriend with you, then she isn’t a loyal girl you can trust and I wouldn’t want her as a girlfriend.

If the new guy isn’t actually her exclusive boyfriend but someone new she is seeing, then that’s another story.

To make her want you and only you, exclusively, you’ll have to do the following…

Avoid showing you’re jealous or mentioning the other guy.

• Don’t bring up the “relationship label” or try to convince her to choose you and take you back.
• Only focus on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up.
• That’s the vibe that matters and it’s how you raise her attraction level.