“Here are 5 laws of female psychology that you’ve probably never heard of before”
If you’re reading this, then either a woman just broke up with you, or she’s fading away.
You aren’t sure what to do about it… but you’ve heard someone mention the “no contact rule”… so you’re looking it up to see what it’s all about.
In this article you’ll learn why it works, and how to use it to get a girl’s attraction back.
I will also give you the 5 laws of female psychology, and how they affect a woman’s attraction level for you.
As you go through these laws, you’ll discover how the no contact rule uses female psychology to your advantage.
Let’s start with the first law.
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Law #1: Women Fade When You Crowd Their Space
Now this is a very common situation that happens early on in a budding relationship.
See, when you get excited and eager to make a girl your girlfriend, it tempts you to crowd her space in ways you don’t even realize, and it causes her to lose attraction.
How do you crowd a girl’s space?
- When the relationship gets serious far too soon
- When you rush the relationship and are too eager to put on the “official” label.
- When you act too much like a boyfriend early on
- When you send her too many texts
- If you’re always checking up on her… wondering what she’s doing… or asking if she’s hanging out with any guys
This happens far too often.
You might think the relationship is guaranteed.
So you lower your guard and start making mistakes.
See, you feel this is ok because you think her attraction is a “given”.
You have the whole fantasy played out. The love story is going to happen and you are going to live happily ever after.
But, little by little, you start making little behaviors that erode her attraction.
Let’s say she doesn’t text you for a whole day, and you start to worry.
All sorts of crazy thoughts go through your head if the relationship is going dry, if she’s getting bored of you, or if she likes another guy.
That worry sends a signal to her that lets her know you are worried… she’s noticing it.
Which makes her feel pressured to fulfill her “duties” of being a girlfriend and to keep you satisfied. Like she feels a “vibe” that you have to text each other every day and check up on each other.
But this makes her feel like she’s losing herself.
See, she can’t be “herself” if she has to force herself to play the “girlfriend” role 24/7.
She doesn’t want to have to do that. She doesn’t want to have to make someone happy.
At least not this early in the relationship.
It’s getting serious far too fast, and she’s losing her freedom.
And once she feels like she’s losing her freedom, she will text you even less… and soon she’ll want space to take a “break”, or she’ll break up with you completely.
The no contact rule gives her space and allows attraction to come back.
Unfortunately, if you looked up “no contact rule” on google, this means you’re already screwed.
Well temporarily at least, (you still have hope since you landed on my page).
But let’s agree you’re in a bad position.
She broke up with you and now you’re doing damage control.
Now let’s move on to law #2.
Law #2: Lover vs. Provider
A woman will label you as either a lover or a provider.
Providers usually want to be her boyfriend too soon, but this puts relationship pressure on her (when they do boyfriend things).
If you’re typically a “provider” guy, and a woman has faded on you, then you have to go into “lover mode”.
I’ll explain.
See, lovers are all about freedom…
- Lovers don’t want to get tied down to one girl yet.
- They love their freedom, and they also have female options
- A girl has to be special to make them want to commit
- And when he finds one who is truly special, only after several dates will he start to consider it
- Therefore, the lover doesn’t rush the relationship. He doesn’t ask the girl about the relationship label
after just one date - He communicates that he just wants to have fun and then the girl slowly wins him over until he wants to commit
When you do the “no contact rule”, you are switching from provider boyfriend mode to “lover” mode.
Yes, if you recently were her boyfriend, then you probably aren’t thinking about other girls, you just want one…
But what I want you to really focus on here is the “freedom” part.
This is what the no contact rule aims to accomplish.
You give the girl space to give her freedom and relieve her of the pressure to be your girlfriend.
But when she comes back, don’t do the boyfriend behaviors of texting her every day or that will crowd her space again.
Most guys think being more in contact with a girl wins them “points” in trying to get her back.
Unfortunately, they don’t understand her true needs.
She likes you and wants to fool around with you, she just doesn’t want to commit right now. She will want to slowly over time, just as long as you don’t rush the relationship and you let her bring up labels and relationship topics.
Make that tweak in your mindset to gain her attraction back.
The no contact rule aims to treat this problem by giving her space.
It’s one “lover” quality that gives the girl freedom.
If you follow the no contact rule and she ends up coming back, adhere to the following game plan:
- Don’t bring up labels, remember that she doesn’t want to be locked in a relationship so soon
- Only focus on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up
- Have dates that lead to sex, then create space in between dates
- Let the woman be the one who brings up the relationship label
When falling for a girl, most guys can’t get their thoughts focused, so they get jerked around by their emotions.
You can more easily control yourself when you are grounded on a purpose or mission in life that keeps your emotions anchored.
Which leads me to law #3.
Law #3: Women are More Attracted to Men Who are on Their Purpose
Being a man on your purpose, path, or mission, is a masculine trait that makes women chase.
When you’re on your purpose, you are grounded on your masculine core.
You are a rock of strength that is less likely to be affected by wussy “little boy” emotions.
Whenever she removes her validation from you, you don’t get knocked off balance.
You don’t weaken, you don’t plead, you don’t get on your knees and beg for one more chance.
You are a mountain that doesn’t budge when a storm comes your way.
Sure, you might get a little wet, but you will stay were you are on your path… because your self-esteem is dependent on your internal goals that surround your purpose.
In contrast, those who attach themselves to female validation feel like all is lost when the girl stops liking them.
Don’t Make the Woman Your Purpose
When you fall too hard for a girl, you start becoming obsessed with her and she’s constantly on your mind.
It’s easy to see how tempting it is to make her your purpose.
- Do you consider “winning this one girl” as your main mission in life?
- Do you plot every move you make to score “points” with her?
- Are your thoughts and behaviors are aligned with the “war effort” of winning this girl over?
- Do all your plans revolve around her?
- Do you ditch your plans to accommodate based on what she’s doing?
If any of these ring a bell, then you’ve made the woman your purpose… whether you’re conscious of it or not.
See, a woman wants you to have something going for you in your life, other than her.
She wants you to be a captain of a ship that’s already going somewhere… a journey she can join you on and be at your side.
But when a man sacrifices his purpose, and substitutes “pleasing the woman” as his new purpose, the woman gets turned off, because he’s lost his masculine core. It won’t feel “right” to her.
So don’t make her your purpose.
A man on his purpose doesn’t have time to get obsessed over a woman who doesn’t give him attention.
He’s busy. He’s got shit to do.
So if a woman fades away, what does a man on his purpose do? He removes his attention from her and instead
refocuses it on people who cherish him and are excited to spend time with him.
Applying the “no contact rule” with the fading girl becomes a natural thing to do.
He naturally goes no contact.
He does this because he values and respects himself… and if you have this mentality, women respect you as well…
Which leads us to Law #4.
Law #4: A Woman Who Doesn’t Respect You Can’t Love You. It’s Impossible.
She can’t ever respect you if you don’t respect yourself.
By letting her walk all over you, doing favors for her that don’t get reciprocated, and not setting boundaries…
you erode the respect a woman has for you.
Remember “whatever you tolerate, you invite more into your life”
Set Boundaries to Gain Her Respect
A man sets boundaries, and he stays on his purpose.
These are boundaries in space, time, and energy.
Physical boundaries are deciding who you let into your home, and not letting a woman (and people in general) take over and dictate what happens in your space.
These boundaries are all about creating physical space that allows you to focus on your purpose.
Time boundaries are how you spend your time.
Who do you give your attention to?
Remember, time is limited and time you waste is time you could have used on your purpose, mission, and goals.
A mature masculine man doesn’t waste time on a girl who doesn’t give him attention.
Can you imagine James Bond spending all night sending desperate texts to a girl who broke up with him?
Hell no. He’s got options! He’s got Miss Moneypenny waiting for him!
Then there are energy boundaries: The mature masculine man sets boundaries on the emotional energy he spends on a girl who stopped replying to his texts.
No way man… you are busy… you’ve got stuff to do. Don’t spend energy on a girl who wouldn’t do the same. There are better options.
Change Her Image of You From a Weak Boy to a Mature Masculine Man
Let’s say a woman’s image of you is that she can do whatever she wants. She can get you to do favors for her. She gives you the “puppy eyes” look and you quickly agree to serve her. You don’t send boundaries whatsoever, and she knows you would do anything to please her.
What if you suddenly start setting boundaries?
One thing that can happen is that you’ll start to change her image of you… and she’ll start to respect you.
And if loss of respect was a big reason she lost feelings, this change of image will allow her attraction come back.
Easier said than done right? Why is this hard to do?
The reason that boundaries are so hard for most men to do is that they are so afraid of confrontation, and of making her upset that he doesn’t “provide” for her or do favors for her anymore.
When you start setting boundaries, you will initially get resistance.
If she reacts negatively to the “new” you, you might feel bad at first, maybe even guilty.
Remember that the nice guy’s main problem is that he isn’t nice to himself! If you aren’t used being nice to yourself, it’s normal to feel out of your comfort zone when you start standing up for yourself… but you must resist the temptation to fall into “wussy” mode.
Give yourself permission to treat yourself with respect, to set boundaries, and follow your path.
Don’t let the resistance stop you from achieving your dreams.
When you stand up for yourself by setting boundaries and doing what serves you best, you will create a switch in her mind, that slowly builds her respect for you, and gets her attraction back.
Even if she resists it at first, she’ll either eventually love the “new you”… or you may need to find new women who treat you for what your worth.
Law #5: Attraction Isn’t “Set in Stone”
When it comes to female psychology, a woman’s attraction level for you is never a given. It’s not “set in stone”.
It can increase or it can fade.
That’s why you must not take it for granted… or it’ll cause you to make mistakes.
Now if you currently have a girl acting completely cold and distant towards you, this is also not “set in stone”.
Just like you thought her attraction was guaranteed before, her lack of attraction doesn’t have to be “fixed” to what it is now.
If you read my eBook and do what it says, it can go back up.
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