You’re out with a girl who’s important to you, and things seem to go well at first.
But then, you get “stuck” not knowing what to say to take things to the “next level”.
You strain your brain to come up with things to say to spice up the conversation…
But her responses keep getting colder and colder… her interest in you fades… until the conversation completely dries up.
And then, as expected… she says “well, I gotta go now! Nice meeting you!”…
and she proceeds to give you a nice “friend zone” hug and leaves.
This makes you feel so bad that you go home disgusted afterwards, kicking yourself for losing your opportunity…
Does this ring a bell?
If it does, then listen up.
When you run out of things to say with a girl you like, you must know what to do.
Because here’s the thing:
The longer you talk to a woman, without taking to a higher gear of “flirting” or getting “sexual”, the more you’re killing your chances of anything ever happening.
In this article, I will talk about how to make your conversations “flow”.
In particular, I will reveal 3 steps you can do to shift a conversation from boring to sexy.
So pay close attention.
Let’s start with a question from a reader who’s going through the same frustration as you.
***Question***
Hi Frankie
I met this girl about a month ago. We went on two dates and everything was going great we talked very well… gave each other some affection every time we met up.
This one day I asked to see her, she agreed and we chilled but I felt as if we
were not connecting as we usually did. Our talk was monotonous I don’t know what went wrong.
I felt disgusted and I didn’t make any contact with her for about 2 weeks. I then started texting her but her replies were short and she never initiated any conversation.
I then gave her a call a few days ago to meet up with her and she agreed.
I was scared to tell the truth because I wanted to let her know how I actually felt about her but I ended up talking just a general talk.
I felt that I was losing the game but I realised that it was a bit late for me to
come back.
She told me that she needs to go but left me with a few words that I have been
pondering about.
She said that she doesn’t have time to waste coz she needs serious people and
not someone who just talks without any purpose.
Can you please advise how can I go about getting on the right track with this chick.
Regards,
L
>>My Comments
Hey L,
Ahh yeah, I know what you mean…
You go on a date with a woman, start talking in conversation, but things go cold and you can’t manage to find a way to progress things forward.
It can be frustrating when all you get is dry, monotone conversations. So your mind goes crazy fretting about what you can say to save this.
If you’re on a date with a girl and things don’t progress, she’ll lose interest
quickly. Then she rationalizes, “things” didn’t happen, so it must not be
“meant to be” and there must not be chemistry.
That’s why this is important.
When you don’t progress, you don’t take risks. You get too much “in your head”. You become stifled. You don’t feel confident. Your brain is “slow” in coming up with things to say.
However, when you’re loose and confident, you flow easily. Everything just “clicks” and the girl reacts positively.
What causes us to struggle and get in our head?
It comes down to attachment to outcome.
You want it too much, so you overthink it… and too much overthinking suppresses your ability to flow.
When you flow, you are present to the moment…. and not worrying about the past or the future.
You aren’t anxious about messing up with this girl. You are only in the PRESENT… and this frees up more energy for your brain to be creative and enjoy hanging out with this girl.
But why do we get attached to outcome?
This arises from scarcity.
When you’re in scarcity, there aren’t other women in your life. You have few options, so you don’t want to blow it with this one. That’s why you are emotionally attached to the end result.
But you see, being attached to the outcome this suppresses your mind and stops you from being loose, free, confident, and free-flowing.
How to make yourself more loose and free-flowing…
1. Abundance
First, cultivate an abundance mentality.
The answer to dating problems is almost always: TALK TO MORE GIRLS… and it’ll fix your scarcity, you won’t easily catch “feelings” for a girl, and women will notice.
2. Meditation: A way to calm the thinking mind, and flow better with girls.
Now it’s ok if you’re not into the “woo woo” stuff. It’s ok if you don’t believe that you’ll get reincarnated into a dolphin in your next life (If you do, that’s cool too). Either way, take advantage of meditation as an awesome psychological tool that makes your brain work faster.
3. Tactics: Powerful tactics that help you come up with “what to say” and take the conversation to the next level when you’re talking to a woman.
It’s the “3 Steps to sex” free webinar, where my friend Bobby reveals…
- 3 Steps to Arousing a Woman and Getting Her Horny For You
- Why trying to “play it cool” will backfire
- How to immediately get out of a nice “friend zone” conversation
by using something called: the “R rated” switch - What words to say to flirt and sexually turn her on
Have a look here and let me know what you think.
Moving things forward, you don’t have a lot to lose, so you can take more
risks. That’s why next time you meet, you can have more purpose, and be
a lot more clear in your intentions.
And nothing suggests your clear intentions like inviting her over directly to your place for dinner. (Or for other fun things, dinner is just a suggestion)
Make sure this is at night. But the key here is that it’s at your place… which sets
up the logistics perfectly… and it helps eliminate the objection the girl has that
you won’t make things happen and escalate.
Assume it’s on, and assume that she wants it. Assume that she feels like she’s wasting time because things didn’t progress. Assume she wanted things to progress.
What you’re doing here is that you’re playing to win, but also saving time. If she actually isn’t interested and she doesn’t want it, then you find out quicker and move on faster.
Remember the abundance mentality, a guy with lots of options doesn’t waste time because he’s busy.
