When Your Ex Girlfriend Still Wants to Be Friends After She Dumps You

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Whenever I read emails from men who just broke up with their ex girlfriend… the question almost always comes up…

“Should You Remain Friends With Your Ex?”

“Should You Remain Friends With Your Ex?”

As you’re reading this, you might be asking yourself the same question… and feeling like you’re in the same dilemma…

What do you do when your ex girlfriend still wants to be friends after she dumps you?

Pay close attention to what I’m going to reveal in this article.

Here’s why:

Although this is a REALLY common situation… most men handle it WRONG. (I hope you’re not making the same big mistake most men make).

Let me explain.

When your ex girlfriend mentions that she still wants to be friends, you will be tempted to follow the following common strategy:

“Ok I’ll be her friend and stay on her friend zone for a while, and I’ll slowly make my way back and re-attract her again!”

Sound familiar?

Well I’m here to tell you that it’s the WRONG way to go about it.

Here’s what you should do instead:

1. If a Woman Wants to Keep You as a Friend, Don’t Agree to it

You see, if you agree to be her friend, she’ll keep you around as her nice-guy-friend-zone-buddy who she gets emotionally support from… and because of this, there will be no actual need for her to come back to you.

Why? Because your role has changed from LOVER to provider friend.

She’ll call you on the phone and you’ll be the buddy she tells about the new man she’s going out with.

Would you like that?

I don’t think so.

What you actually WANT, is to keep her as a lover.

That’s why you shouldn’t agree to stay friends.

So instead…

2. Tell Her You Don’t Want to be Just Friends, and to Let You Know if She Changes Her Mind

This is CRITICAL.

You state what you want, and you leave the door open for her to come back.

Say “I’m interested in you as a lover but not as a friend” and if she says no then say “Reach out if you change your mind” and then go “no contact” again.

And now the next key is huge…

3. Don’t Try to Convince Her to Get the “Relationship Label” Back Right Now

Instead, only focus on being in the “lover zone”… not the friend zone or boyfriend zone.

You want to communicate that you don’t want anything platonic… while at the same time, not making her feel pressured to be in an official relationship.

See, your girl probably wanted a break because she thought things were getting too serious and she felt overwhelmed by the commitment.

You want to address her objection of “this serious relationship stuff is overwhelming!” and stop doing the things that make her feel overwhelmed and make her seek space…

…while at the same time not accepting being “just friends”.

So you want to aim for the “not officially together but still hooking up” zone… in a way.

To do that, when you interact with her, only focus on hanging out and having fun, without talking about feelings, relationship label stuff, etc…

Make sense?

But now the most important part (And this is where most men mess up) is to…

4. Walk Away and Never Look Back

You tell her you don’t want to be just friends, and you MEAN IT.

This means you walk away, and NEVER contact her again… (not even on birthdays or holidays)…

UNLESS she makes contact… which at that point, assume she wants to see you, and make a date. You say what you mean and you mean what you say.

Now Here’s the Thing…

Your ex girlfriend probably broke up with you because you acted weak.

Yes, even if she already gave you a reason for breaking up… the REAL reason women break up with you is always the same:

YOU ACTED WEAK, SHE LOST ATTRACTION

Now it’s ok. We’ve all been there.

However now the fact of the matter is this: To start making your ex girlfriend feel attraction for you again, you have to start acting STRONG again.

Make sense?.

Acting like her friend even if it’s not what you want, is not what an alpha male would do.

Think about it. What would James Bond do? Would he try to sneak in from the friend zone? No, it would be a waste of time. Obviously, he would get on with his life, and he would go find other girls!

He wouldn’t stick around and SETTLE being just friends with a girl who didn’t value him as a lover.

Likewise, when your ex girlfriend still wants to be friends after she dumps you, the strong move is to:

  1. Not accept being her friend
  2. Let her know to get in touch if she changes her mind
  3. Walk away, move on, and start talking to OTHER women to boost up your abundance

I hope you learned something helpful today. Even if you made some of the mistakes I mentioned in this email, you might still be able to get back on track if you act strong and like a man of value.

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