When Your Girlfriend Loses Interest In You

Everything was going according to plan… until she suddenly went cold.

When your girlfriend loses interest in you, it hits you by surprise.

You are left hurt and confused wondering what to do.

Which is why you are here searching for answers.

You’re looking for “what to do” to get back her feelings and make her eager to spend time with you again.

Because you want to get this relationship started, to make memories together.

You want to get on with your love story, take her on a white horse into the sunset, and live happily ever after.

After all, that’s the point of everything, right?

In this article I will analyze three cases from students who had a girl suddenly lose interest.

In addition, you’ll see why the 2020 corona lockdown made some relationships even harder.

Let’s start with an email from our good friend Steve.

Question #1: “When My Girlfriend Loses Interest in Me… What Do I Do?”

Just read your free 7 Dangerous mistakes report. WHAT A REVELATION!!

My girlfriend dumped me right out of the blue last week.

Things started off great. We met on a dating site in January, and we were getting on quite well.

We live an hour apart so every weekend I was traveling to hers or she was coming to my place. In fact, she was coming to my place more than I was going to her place.

Along came the Corona lockdown… and we decided to stay together at the same place during the lockdown.

Since I was furloughed at work, I decided to stay at her place. She has three children, so it makes sense. 

But then one night, she asked me to leave, which confused me because everything seemed fine.

Just the night before asking me to leave, she was suggesting places to go after lockdown ends.

She was warm just yesterday, but now all of a sudden she went cold.

I was very confused about this… until I read your eBook.

And it’s all obvious now.

I became too available, she got overwhelmed, and that’s the reason it ended.

Hopefully I might be able to turn things around with your help.

Thank you,

– Steve

My Reply: Crowding Her Space Makes Her Lose Feelings

Hey Steve, it was great reading your email.

I can see how living with her makes it much easier to become too available.

Makes it too easy to crowd her space!

But her emotions aren’t “set in stone”.

So just like went from hot to cold on you, she can warm up again once you give her some space.

This should be easy to do now that you’re apart physically.

Women can go cold “out of the blue” and it can catch you by surprise, if you aren’t aware of the mistakes that can silently drive her away.

One thing that drives the “surprise” factor is that women often hide how they feel if you’re overwhelming them. They tend to “sugarcoat” their feelings, and it gives you a false sense of security.

Until one day she pulls the rug from under your feet and you fall through the trap door. You never saw it coming, so you are caught by surprise.

Overcrowding her space is the chief factor of women fading away.

This coronavirus lockdown forced you to move in together sooner than expected. It wasn’t natural, so it was expected to cause “boundary” or “space” problems. She soon realized she felt crowded too much and requested physical space.

However, you can totally manage this and get he attraction back up, as long as you don’t get desperate, don’t chase, and let her come to you.

Question #2: “Made Out With My Crush… But then She Blocked Me”

Hi Frankie,

I have a female friend who i have a serious crush on.

Met her last year December and didn’t see her until last month to be precise.

She invited me over to her house later that evening, and we ended up kissing and making out, it was awesome!

She promised me we would keep seeing each other, but to my greatest surprise she blocked me on all social media.

Last week I ordered a teddy bear to be delivered to her address, but she called to yell at me for sending her a teddy bear.

Before she hung up, she said this was her last call ever to me and that I shouldn’t cross paths with her.

Can you please advise me on what to do? I seriously have a crush on her.

Thank You.

– James

My Reply: Something Made Her Block you… Like Feeling Overwhelmed

Hey James,

I am now wondering, what happened between the date, and her blocking you on all social media?

My guess is that you texted her a little too much, and she got overwhelmed and distanced herself.

However, the next mistake after that made the situation worse.

When she blocked you, the move here was to give her space and wait for her to reach out.

If she’s wanting space, breaking that space by sending her a gift isn’t the way to go… it drives her away even further, which is why she got angry.

The best you can do now is keep going no contact until she reaches out.

This means 100% no contact, even on birthdays and holidays, unless she texts you first.

Question #3: “Girl Stopped Talking to Me!”

Hi Frankie,

My situation is slightly different…

We were only talking for 3 weeks and in that time we got really close… but now she’s not speaking with me.

As you say in your eBook, the barriers came up because we were talking about the relationship status etc.

However, this type of relationship conversation was reciprocated and it’s what we both wanted, but she has some unresolved issues with her ‘ex’.

She even told me she saw herself as a bit of an “Ice Queen”…meaning that she can shut people out and never think of them again… That’s what I’m afraid will happen here.

We’ll either both move on and never talk to each other again or go back to how we were before.

I know three weeks seem short, but our history is long, as we’ve been talking on and off for 15 years.

Nothing as strong as how we were communicating recently though. I’m talking 3 hour conversations. Even our video calls were 2 hours long — we did them twice a week or more.

What should I do?

I’m thinking should send her one very last WhatsApp saying something like.

“Can we go back to having fun and going with the flow? We said to each other on the phone that  we’d take things slow, but we both got caught up in the moment”

I last texted her on Sunday night saying “i know we were talking too much before, how are you? Hope everything is alright x” – how stupid was that?!

What i really meant was the message above. Thinking of sending it to her in a week if I haven’t heard from her…

What do you think?

Thanks,

Ted

My Reply: The “Relationship Label” Talk Made Her Pull Away

Hey Ted,

Seems like she felt a “relationship pressure” that came from a combination of all the talking, the 3-hour conversations,  and 2-hour video calls. They were just too much.

Combined with the relationship status talks, it overwhelmed her and caused her to go distant.

So the best thing right now is to create space.

Do your own thing and pretend nothing happened, don’t talk to her mom either cause that adds extra pressure.

The main issue is the girl got relationship pressure, causing her to back away to seek space.

Therefore, create that space by going no contact until she reaches out.

In the meantime, talk to other girls and focus on yourself, your hobbies, and self-development.

To Create a Change in Her Feelings For You, You Can’t Convince Her With Logic

When your girlfriend loses interest in you, it means you have to cause a change in her that gets her to think about you and reach out again.

This change isn’t something that you convince her logical mind to realize.

Instead, it’s an unspoken thing that you speak to her emotional mind.

Just as your emotions right now are a whirlwind, so are hers. Her feelings for you are unclear and she isn’t sure of what to do. 

Related: “Girlfriend Lost Feelings and Doesn’t Know Why”

I want you to take a look at this chart.

Are you grounded on your path… or are you oriented to what the woman is doing?

The woman, represented by the red line, is zig zagging all over the place.

If you feel weakened by a girl going cold on you, it can cause you to “chase” her zig zags (the top).

That’s what most men do in situations when the girl fades away.

Instead, you must stay on your own path just like the straight blue line in the bottom half of the image.

Be a rock, and let the girl zig zag around you… let her chase you.

When a woman fades away, you must do things that make you more attractive in her eyes, so that her feelings come back.

This means eliminate the behaviors that make you “zig zag” around her… like when you become too dependent on her opinion of you… or when you’re dependent on her texts to raise your self-esteem.

Right now you probably don’t feel confident and your mind is probably too focused on what HER mind is thinking. 

This crappy feeling we have inside could happen from time to time when we fall too hard for a woman and we get rejected. This bad feeling is a kick in the butt from the universe that makes you shift the focus back to your own needs.

Focus on yourself, on your own purpose, passions, and hobbies.

Value those people who value you. Don’t waste time on women who aren’t giving you attention. If a girl got cold, stop inundating her with texts, and don’t ask her “what’s wrong”. 

Remember: Using “logic” to fix her feelings doesn’t work.

Instead, focus on changing her emotions, by changing your behavior to be more centered on yourself, and not centered on her (not chasing her).

To change your behavior, create space and let the woman come to you. Let her be the one who initiates texts. 

Assume the reason she faded is that she lost attraction and now needs a bit of space to sort her feelings out… space that allows her feelings to come back.

Give her the *gift* of missing you.

If you’re used to texting this girl every single day, it will seem weird and alien to not constantly reach out at her. This silence may drive you crazy.

But if creating space seems odd, then it’s a sign that you REALLY need to create space. You need to be ok with not texting her, and being on your own. That will allow you to “reset” your confidence, and at the same time give her a chance to miss you, until she reaches out again.

In the mean time, I recommend that you check out the Ex Factor program — it shows you how to make your ex girlfriend fall in love with you again.

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