Here’s the deal…
If you plan to make a girl like you, you MUST know how to talk.
You might have the best body language, great looks, and a boatload of money… but if you don’t know how to generate attraction through the way you talk to women, you won’t make it.
You’ll get NOWHERE…
Now one of the most common problems is not knowing what to talk about in a conversation with a girl.
Therefore, one of the common worries men have is running out of things to say and getting stuck…
So it’s CRITICAL that you have access to the types of topics that steer a conversation into fun and flirty banter.
Now if you want to make sure that you don’t blow your conversations with women, let’s make sure you don’t commit the following 6 conversation mistakes…
Mistake #1: Not Being Prepared For the 90/10 Beginning “Stage” of the Conversation
Ever notice how conversations don’t really get going until about 5-10 minutes in?
This is called the 90/10 stage of the conversation where you are the one doing most of the work.
This is something that typically happens when you cold approach a girl and start talking to her for the first time.
She is going to be cold in her head… just as YOU were before you “warmed” up before your approach.
So don’t get discouraged! Accept that, at the start of the conversation, you will naturally have to do most of the work until you “unfreeze her” and the girl finally starts to contribute.
This also means that you need to have a good idea of what to talk about in a conversation with a girl or you will run out of things to say during that 90/10 stage.
Mistake #2: Being Oblivious to Her Signs
Pay attention to the signs a girl sends you.
These signs help you calibrate your “game” emotionally… to see if whether you are doing is working or not.
They also help you determine if you should make your “move” and ESCALATE the interaction to the next level.
Being oblivious to her signs is like walking through blind alleys clueless as to whether your game is working or not.
Pay Attention to The Following Signs
- Is she ENGAGED and making eye contact with you… or does she seem bored looking around for something (or someone) ELSE to stimulate her?
- Is her tonality emotional, or does her voice sound dry and boring?
- Is she giving you compliance? Or are you having a hard time getting her to do what you want?
The answer to these questions provide clues as to whether or not she is intrigued and you should escalate.
Mistake #3: Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning
Ever notice how, right after that first conversation with a girl, talking to another girl seems so much easier?
That’s because you’re already “warmed up” being in rapport with someone so you don’t have to build it up again.
However, if you develop the skill of ASSUMING rapport with women right from the start of a conversation, your “warm up” gets so much easier.
Even if she’s a complete stranger, you should be bringing the same friendly energy as you would with an old friend.
What most men do when meeting a woman for the first time?
They get into the “stiff and formal” automatic mode reserved for strangers.
Well it turns out that this type of communication makes a woman TREAT YOU LIKE A STRANGER.
You aren’t quite loose and open… and she isn’t either, which leads to uncomfortable awkward silences that DEVASTATE these new conversations.
Jump right into rapport with a woman, and she will follow and connect with you instantly… which makes her say “I feel like I’ve known him forever!”
Which is what you want, isn’t it?
Now the next mistake is a very common TRAP…
Mistake #4: Falling into Interview Mode
Ahh yes… the dreaded interview mode.
Interview mode happens when we’re stumped and unable to come up with what to say next.
Then, in an effort to just say anything, we start shooting out logical interview-styled questions like
- what do you do?
- where are you from?
- what do you do for fun?
And whenever a conversation gets too logical with a woman, it…
- prevents the girl from getting emotional
- kills the fun vibe
- SUFFOCATES the chemistry happening between you
and the woman.
The type of conversation you want with a woman should be a fun “back and forth” that contains lots of emotional interplay between the two of you.
It should NOT feel like a boring job interview.
Mistake #5: Letting the Girl “Lead” During the Conversation
This is a BIG one.
When most guys get into a conversation with a woman they like, they tend to wait for her “permission” before taking
any sort of lead in the conversation.
They do this because they’re scared to make a mistake so they “play it safe.”
But when a girl gets used to leading you, it’s IMPOSSIBLE for her to feel any attraction for you.
She will only see you as the nice guy friend she can “control.”
She will never see you as a man she might get sexual with.
One thing men fear is choosing the “wrong” topic of conversation or pissing the woman off.
But I’ve found that a girl will follow along with whatever topic you go into as long as you LEAD with initiative and you bring a strong energy into what you’re saying.
When you lead, and a woman follows, what she truly follows is the ENERGY of how you say things and express yourself, not the “logical” words that are coming out of your mouth.
I hope you get the picture.
Mistake #6: Not Getting Help
This is the biggest mistake of all.
Why? Because it’s what holds you back from EVER having the success you truly want with women.
I get it… we men don’t like to look “weak” and helpless… so we don’t like to ask for help.
I get it because I’ve been there myself.
I know how it feels to struggle with girls and not know how to maintain a conversation…
All while that other guy easily got her excited and giggling with no effort at all… getting her eyes to light up and getting her to leave the party with him while I was left standing all alone.
That’s why I want to show you the proven tools and conversation techniques — to help you MASTER what to talk about in a conversation with a girl… and so that you don’t struggle with women any longer.
If you want to get the “talking to women” part of your life handled, then get this absolutely FREE 23-page training manuscript that reveals exactly what to say to make girls want you.
Not only will you learn how to never run out of things to say with women in a conversation, but you will also learn how to ESCALATE conversations to a sexy, flirtatious topics that gets girls excited to keep talking to you.
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