How to Win Back a Girl Who Rejected You By Making 4 Simple Mind SHIFTS

Girl rejects you…

You are spending time with a girl you really, really like…

And you decide to do the “big move” because you can’t take it anymore.

You can’t take the uncertainty… not knowing whether she likes you or not,
and her mixed signals aren’t helping!

So you decide to “go for it”.

Maybe you directly tell her how you feel… or maybe you lean in and go for the kiss…

But she rejects you.

She turns her face and gives you the cheek… or she says “I only like you as a friend”.

It feels terrible.

Yes, although you might now have some closure… you still feel really bad, and you wish you knew a way to turn this around.

Our good friend Mario had a similar experience and he emailed me about it.

Keep reading as you’ll learn the 4 Mind SHIFTS you need to make in order to win back a girl who rejected you.

***Question***

How to Win Back a Girl Who Rejected You?

Dear Frankie,

I recently broke up with my girlfriend, and haven’t been able to get over her.

I spent months and months trying to get over her… but now just 2 weeks ago… I finally met a new girl who made me feel better about myself.

To be very honest and this may sound silly… I was barely in contact with this new girl for only 2 weeks and she was the first one who cured my oneitis IMMEDIATELY!

A bit of backstory: We met online in a “Facebook Group”. Our first chat was about 3-4 hours long. She is very smart.

She nurtured me and helped me get over my break up. The words of comfort she told me broke through the computer monitor and into my heart.

Sometimes she said things that I literally felt physically.

I’ve never had this feeling before!

Also, she is a very happy person, and she makes me laugh all the time!

Now the next day we were both free and literally our chat started in the morning and ended in the evening… non-stop.

This all-day chatting continued for several days… until I asked her for an “in-person” meeting and she said yes.

So we met last Sunday for coffee at 11 am and we finished it 4 pm.

In these 5 hours there wasn’t even a moment of silence.

We talked a lot and we laughed a lot, BUT…

When we said goodbye, we hugged and I tried to kiss her… but she denied.

She laughed about it, but it was very awkward… and in that moment I knew I had fucked up.

She knows I like her. Later when we chatted the next day, I said if we meet again I want it to be a proper date. She asked if I was sure about this. I said yes.

I told her I think we are compatible, we know each other’s story, inside and out…

She said she thinks about it sometims but wants to remain as just friends.

I told her if she says no then I dont want to stay in contact with her, because I want more. She was very sad, but she is glad that I’m honest. I told her if she changes her mind, then she knows where to find me.

Did I do right?

What do you think went wrong on the date?

The kiss or I just didn’t build up for it?

Should I schedule another date?

– Mario

P.S.

She also thinks she’s afraid to hurt me, and that I’m a “giver” person and I should watch out for people who want to take advantage of me.

But if she thinks she’s going to take advantage of me I want to say that she’s wrong.

I would tell her that in these 2 weeks she gave me more than anyone else in a lifetime. Sounds silly but it’s true. Should I tell her this?

>>>Comments

Hey Mario,

“What do you think went wrong on the date? The kiss or I just didn’t build up for it?”

The kiss was a must, and the result gave you an indicator of where she’s at.

Most likely, it wasn’t something you did on the date… but something you did in the weeks beforehand… all the hours and hours of texting and calling…
that made her place you in the “friend” category.

She connected and cared about you, but only as a friend.

The messages you sent her, and the manner in which you flirted with her
determined the “role” you were playing.

Were you the lover, or was she giving you “therapy” and making you feel better about yourself?

This is KEY!

This is the big thing that made her place you in the “friend” category… and it’s that she was in “nurturing mode” with you.

See, some women are wonderful in that they’re great at nurturing you. And this girl that you met seems amazing in that way.

However, when a woman is in “mommy mode” and helping you with your feelings, it isn’t conducive to making her feel sexual attraction for you.

“Mommy mode” and making her feel sexual attraction can’t both happen at the same time! It’s either one or the other.

Now I want to go through the 4 keys to winning back a girl who rejected you.

These are 4 mindsets that you need to have.

Remember, mindsets = how you behave = results that you get.

And results = winning this girl back.

4 Mindsets to Attracting a Girl Who Rejected You

1. “Date” vs. “Meet up” Wording Mindset

You say “If we meet again I want that as a proper date.”

Actually I think it’s better for you to use the term “meet up” rather than “date”… because of all the “proper” and “formal” assumptions women have about the word date.

See, when a woman hears the word “date”… she has a picture in her mind of how an “old-fashioned date” is supposed to go. We have this picture in our minds from the moment we started watching movies.

On a date, you are forced sit across from each other over a fancy dinner, and she is pressured to invest all this time.

And so a woman feels hesistant if she thinks you’re going to take her on an old-fashioned date.

It’s better to use more casual sounding terms, like “hang out”, “meet up”, or “get together”.

Also change the way you picture a date in your own mind.

Think of it as a fun-filled meet with the opportunity for sex to happen.

Worse is if you say you add “proper” to it and say you want to meet her on a “proper date”.

When one thinks of the term “proper date”, one thinks of a date that is more serious… and like I mentioned previously, there’s this idea implanted in our head of how a date is supposed to go and this creates pressure for the woman.

This is the same reason why it’s not a good idea to push for a “serious” relationship so soon.

It’s better to say…

“I want to hang out as more than platonic friends”

However, and this is very important… you don’t want to communicate that you want to be her boyfriend.

This is another big reason it’s a bad idea to think of going on a date as this grand gesture.

Because the way you think about it in your mind, dictates the wording you use, and that wording of going on the big date signals to her that you’re very interested in being her boyfriend.

And if she thinks you want to be her next boyfriend, you have LESS chances
of actually being her boyfriend, than if she thinks you just want to “fool around” with her.

Which brings me to Mindset #2…

2. Aim For the “Lover Zone” and not the “Boyfriend Zone”

I know this is counterintuitive, but you basically want to aim for the “Lover Zone” and not the “Boyfriend Zone”.

Only later when she’s more attracted to you does she try to make you her boyfriend herself, by asking you questions like “so… what are we?” and then that’s how you convert the fling into a more official “relationship”.

It’s great to talk about sex. The fact that you talk about it is already good and it doesn’t matter as much that you didn’t explicitly say you wanted to do those things with her.

Because the overall vibe is more important than directly saying the words of intent.

If your attitude is you want to have fun and fool around, you’ll probably do a lot better!

However, if you’re putting her on a pedestal, and treating her “special”, then it’s going to come across that you really NEED it to work with her.

And that leads me to mindset #3:

3. Value Yourself: Don’t Put Her on a Pedestal and “Devalue” Yourself

You say “if she thinks she’s going to take advantage of me I want to say that she’s wrong. I would tell her that in these 2 weeks she gave me more than anyone else in a lifetime. Sounds silly but it’s true.”

First, you’re overthinking it. You’re trying to use logic to say no you’re not this kind of person and logic won’t convince her to feel attraction because that’s emotions.

Next, saying she’s given you more than anyone else in a lifetime completely lowers your value in her eyes.

You feel that she is up in this pedestal because she gave you a lifetime of attention in those 2 weeks, and you got addicted to her validating you and giving you good emotions.

When you’re in scarcity this happens.

You already feel empty from breaking up with a girl and then another girl fills that hole, and you become so dependent on her, that you overvalue her. It makes you give up your power, and it lowers your attractiveness because she senses you’re so needy.

And when a girl is in “nurturing mode” and healing you because you feel like a wounded puppy… you’re coming from a place that doesn’t create attraction.

I mean it’s great that she nurtured you, and that you feel better about yourself.

But if she stopped nurturing you (because you’ve gone no contact for a week)… and you feel an emptiness… are you actually “better” or just dependent on her?

4. Start Meeting Other Women

Develop an Abundance Mentality: Start having more female options in your mind.

Are you obsessing over one girl?

When your mind feels that there’s only ONE girl in the world for you.. that’s called having a Scarcity Mentality.

When you feel like this, it’s easy to feel an intense crush on that ONE girl… and as a result you become dependent on the girl’s validation.

You depend on her treating you nicely to feel good about yourself.

This causes you to do “needy shit” that makes you unattractive.

You easily get jealous.

You become clingy and possessive.

You develop this elaborate romantic fantasy about the girl… and you want to fulfill this fantasy. You get so attached to it that you become needy for it.

Is this you?

If it is…

Nothing kicks you out of “oneitis” better than thinking about other women,
and interacting with them.

When you do this, you start thinking in terms of abundance.

Yes, I know you feel your crush is the only girl for you, and that if you
“let her go” she’ll forget you and she’ll find some other guy.

But the reality is that obsessively pursuing this girl when it isn’t working
only puts you in a deeper hole. 

To break out of that hole, you need to reset her weak “image” of you and replace it with a strong image. 

To do this, you must…

• First: go no contact…
• Second: reset her “image” of you by doing a “pattern interrupt” and…
• Third: coming back stronger than ever

The secret of how to win back a girl who rejected you is to change her image of you…

Because here’s the bottom line: You must BREAK this image to make her think of you differently.

How do you do it?

Here’s an intriguing little “mind game” called “The Scrambler” that, when you use it on a girl, it SHIFTS this “pattern of interaction” and makes her strongly attracted to you…

Learn about it in this video.