Your ex girlfriend dumped you for her old boyfriend and you want to get her back.
You are devastated, she said she was totally over him, and that you were the only one. She made you feel so special, but now those things she said don’t mean anything anymore.
What can you do?
The good news is that this video teaches you little-known techniques to “re-wire” your ex’s feelings and make her want you back.
Now I recently got an email saying “she left me for her ex, will she come back?” from a student who is probably experiencing the same situation as you.
I will share with you his email and my reply below.
So you’ll want to pay attention.
You will learn:
- The “ex back” play her ex boyfriend probably used to win her back, and how you can use it as well
- Why “less is more”
- How to utilize masculine behavior to win her back
Let’s start with the email from my student “Gary”.
***Question #1***
She Left Me For Her Ex, Will She Come Back?
Hi Frankie,
What if my girlfriend left me to go back to her previous ex?
I’m devastated right now because she said she was totally over him and that she felt nothing except friendship towards him but now they’re getting back together. It kills me cause she’s so enamored by him.
How does the “ex back” process work in this case? I feel like I just fell victim to her ex boyfriend’s “ex back” play?
I don’t know what to do. She was with him for 5 years and with me for 3 years. She said she wanted to marry both of us (obviously at different times).
I’ve known her since high school. He’s known her for a significantly shorter amount of time (maybe 8 years at the most?) She and I are both 32 and we were friends since we were 14.
I feel like the history with us is stronger but she seems to feel a lot more for him than she did for me.
She wasn’t friends with her ex after the breakup – it happened when she reached out to him during our relationship (over a year ago) but the friendship seemed to work for him.
I told her I didn’t want to be just friends and left the door open, but I feel like this will be to my detriment. I’m at a total loss. What can I do?
Gary
>>>My Comments
Hi Gary,
Whenever I get an email saying “she left me for her ex, will she come back?” the first thing I say is: A woman’s attraction isn’t “set in stone”.
She felt attraction for him in the past (enough to talk about marriage)… and then she felt attraction for you (enough to talk about marriage).
Obviously it wasn’t “set in stone” in either of those cases.
It went up, down, and back up in his case.
With this in mind it doesn’t matter if the “history” of either one of you is stronger, because what matters is the attraction IN THE MOMENT.
When she said she was totally over him, that was IN THAT MOMENT. When she said she wanted to marry you, it was IN THAT MOMENT.
Somewhere along the line, her ex gave her space, while on your end you likely made the mistake of crowding her space. This is the “ex back” play that tipped her over to him.
While she is now more attracted to him than to you, this could only apply to this moment, if you play your cards right.
From your end, you want to maximize your chances that her attraction for you goes back up again.
So far, you made the right move saying you didn’t want to be just friends and leaving the door open. Now you must go no contact until she reaches out. And this means 100% no contact, even birthdays and holidays.
In the meantime, think back and analyze what made her lose attraction.
(I wrote this 21 page report that reveals the 7 dangerous mistakes that lead to attraction loss)
Play detective and figure out which mistakes made her fade away and lose attraction for you. Then think of how you can avoid that in the future.
Similarly, there’s a chance your competition will make mistakes that make her fade away on him too… and then she’ll reach out to you when the balance tips over to your side.
***Question #2***
Hi Frankie,
My girlfriend of two years dumped me 3 months ago… telling me she wants to concentrate on her daughter and her studies.
A week later I found out she’s with her baby daddy.
That broke me and I started acting weak.
To cut the story short, 2 weeks ago she called and said she wanted to meet me.
Then she said she wanted us to fix our relationship because she loves me and acted out of character.
I love her and I told her fine we should fix our relationship.
But she was still distant and she didn’t want me to hug her.
She said to give her some time and the problems will fade away.
But nothing changed.
Then today it got worse when she sended me this message:
“First of all I would to apologize for all that has heppened between me and you these past 4 months.
I hurt you badly and I will forever be sorry.
She: I’m sorry again for coming in and out of your life as you’re trying to heal and move on, it’s very selfish of me. Forgive me please.These past two weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions, ups and downs. I have seen your efforts and forever indebted to you.
But I have to be honest with myself and be honest with the present. What we have now feels nothing like what we had. Guess it was to be expected after all that.
Me: This means you ending us again?
She: Not again, I am making it official it does not feel the same anymore.
Maybe our paths will cross again. Sorry for any inconvenience caused.
Please help me what should I do because I love her with all of my heart, do you think I should fight for her?…I think she’s seeing her ex boyfriend because they have a daughter together. I don’t have a child she has a daughter with that guy.
Please help I love her with all of my heart, I need your advice, What should I do from here?
Warm Regards
Zack
>>>My Comments
Hey Zack, when she first became distant and needed space and time, it was important to create the space that she needed.
Meaning, less texting and reaching out to crowd her space. How often where you in contact during that period?
When she is distant, don’t reach out at all and let her come to you. Even if you go no contact for a week, stay put and wait for her to text you first.
Right now, you must create space once again to have any chance.
It can be hard though. When you feel weak, you feel the need to reach out and crowd her space, but that doesn’t allow her to regain her feelings for you. You jump into her space, the cycle repeats, and she becomes distant.
Also, you get the urge to “fight for her” and “do stuff” to get her back. However, that does nothing to re-attract her back. Because, again, what she needs is space away from you.
Even if you feel like letting her go means she fades away forever. Squash the urge to reach out because creating space is the one way to re-attract her back.
Don’t contact her at all, even for holidays and birthdays…
…until she contacts you first.
Then if she does reach out, make a date. Then in the date don’t talk about feelings, the relationship label, or her baby daddy — all you should focus on is hanging out, having fun, and hooking up.
It’s important that if you DO go back into contact with her, to keep texting to a minimum. Only text a couple times a week.
However, all of the above is if you were to start seeing her again.
At this moment right now, you should just focus on yourself.
See other friends, talk to other girls.
Socialize more and go into abundance.
You want to feel like you have more options in the world… not just the one girl to depend on, because that is toxic.
And if you want to re-attract your girlfriend back to you (and I’m guessing you do, or you wouldn’t be reading this)… then you should watch this video here:
Free Video: How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
It reveals a simple series of steps you can take… starting right now… to “re-attract” your ex girlfriend and change the way she feels about you.