How to Get Out of the Friend Zone With a Girl

Escaping the Friend Zone By Making a Move

You want to escape the friend zone with a girl you hang out often.

You can’t take it anymore and want to go for it.

It feels like “burning the boats”.

It seems like the end of the line. If she rejects you, you’ll also lose her friendship and validation.

So what do you do?

Fast forward to your future 80 year-old self looking back at your life.

Will you look back at this moment and say “That was pretty cool I tried that move on her”… or will you regret not doing anything and settling for friend zone mediocrity?

Think of yourself right now as the 80 year old looking back at old memories of your life.

Think of all you regret and how bad it feels.

You settled and didn’t go for glory. You missed out on living your full potential of what you REALLY wanted in life.

Now come back to the present and live your life properly.

“Think of yourself as dead. You have lived your life. Now, take what’s left and live it properly.” ― Marcus Aurelius

Abundance

Hanging out with this girl is cool, and you feel good when you do it.

But you want more, you want it ALL.

But what if the chances are less than 50% that she doesn’t like you back?

This is when abundance comes in.

If she’s the only girl on your mind, you’re putting all your eggs in one basket.

You’re going to hit a low if she rejects you.

That’s why it’s healthy to have other options.

You mind will be less attached to the outcome and more free to have fun if you’re going on dates with other girls.

Detach From Women Who Don’t Value You as a Lover

Can you go from friend to lover?

The girl friend zoning you might value you as a friend, but you want to be valued as a lover. That’s the point.

If she doesn’t value you as a lover and you aren’t satisfied with those terms, remove yourself from the situation and walk away. That’s not your thing.

You want to achieve peak experiences in life, not a mediocre friend zone.

Therefore, value yourself by being true to what you REALLY want and setting boundaries against what you don’t want.

You’re on your side, rooting for yourself, caring for yourself like your own baby.

If you waste time accepting terms you aren’t satisfied with… then you are wasting time you could have used looking for women who would value you as a lover.

What you really want is a passionate, intimate romance with a girl. If your crush doesn’t reciprocate because she only likes you as a friend, it’s not your thing and there is no use pursuing something that isn’t there.

Time to move on. Mourn the thing you thought existed, then bury it.

Your Crush Likes Another Guy Way More Than You

When something is meant for you, girls make it easy. Love is playful, and it evolves easily. If you’re putting too much effort, something’s not right.

You’re friend zoned with a girl, and you’re thinking of all the ways to make her attracted to you.

You’re putting all this mental effort over the course of months…

But the girl only gives you mixed signals. If she attracted, or is she just really friendly?

Notice how she acts with other people — if she friendly to them too?

But then you notice another guy in your social circle getting her to laugh and act feminine without barely trying. He makes it seem so easy while you’re spending months with no result.

Here you gotta see the scoreboard and notice that this isn’t for you.

Maybe don’t try so hard. Find other girls to talk to. Give this girl less attention.

Ironically, when you think it’s all over and you give up giving a girl attention, it’s often what finally gets her to act differently around you.

If things are still the same, accept that it’s not your thing.

You can’t get her to submit to you as well as the other dude. But maybe you can get other girls to follow you and act feminine around you.

Try that.

Ignoring a Girl Who Friendzoned You?

When a girl friendzones you, and you’re not satisfied with those terms, you want to not accept it and walk away from the friend zone.

This applies to a crush, ex girlfriend, or anyone who friendzones you when you are only interested in sex and romance

But should you ignore her? No.

Avoid going up and talking to them, but if they talk to you, don’t be a cold fish.

Sometimes you work or go to school with this person, so your paths will still cross.

When you pass by each other, wave and say hi, and then move along with your day.

Don’t ignore her, but don’t go out of your way to talk to her.

Think of it as polite indifference.

Think of it as “putting them in a little box” where you remove your attention from them unless they come back acting interested or eager to see you.

You want to create space for you to find someone who really is interested in you.

You’re setting boundaries on your time and energy.

Your attention won’t get wasted on those who value you less, so you remove it from them and make yourself scarce.

This scarcity makes your attention go up in value and it’s what can make their attention come back to you.

If you were making the mistake of acting needy and crowding someone with attention, then this is the fix.

But if they fundamentally just don’t feel chemistry with you, then it’s not your thing… and removing your attention creates space for you to find someone who would feel chemistry with you.

Avoiding the Friend Zone Through Texting

Now this can mean texting a girl who friendzoned you… or falling into the texting friend zone.

Let’s address both.

Texting a Girl Who Friendzoned You

When a girl friendzones you after you’ve made your intent clear (that you don’t want anything platonic), you walk away and never text her again unless she reaches out first.

If she does text you first, assume she’s changed her mind, and lead by making a date.

Get to the point quickly and don’t get into long text conversations that lead nowhere.

If she still only wants friendship, then say to reach out if she changes her mind, and end the conversation by saying “ok gotta run” and go along your day doing things and being busy.

Women will bait you into the friend zone by getting you to engage in long text conversations, or doing things friends would do, like lunch dates, group hangouts, or daytime activities.

If you only want sex and romance, you must set boundaries against friendship activities and make it clear you’re only interested in sex and romance.

Falling into the Texting Friend Zone

When you just meet a girl, you can fall into the trap of “getting to know her over text” and getting into long conversations that lead nowhere. The mystery gets lost, and she loses the anticipation of getting to know you for reals.

Instead, get to the point quickly and make a date. The phone is for setting dates.
Save the “getting to know each other” for the face-to-face date.

Otherwise, she’ll get bored, lose interest, and you’ll text your way into the friend zone

When You Get Another Chance

When you’ve been obsessed over a girl for a while, and something happens that makes you feel like “it’s over” and you have no chance… it makes you go from trying too hard to not trying at all.

You stop giving her attention and pivot your focus towards other women.

Ironically, the girl might notice this and wonder why you don’t give her attention like before.

Which may give you a second wind. She’ll warm up to you and act interested which may confuse you and make you wonder where this is coming from.

All this time you were stepping on the accelerator trying to make something happen when letting her come to you was more effective.

It turns out that pulling away to give yourself a “break” is the first step in The Scrambler sequence.

To learn the details of how to do this, watch this free video to learn how to turn your female friend into a lover.