How to Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Her New Boyfriend

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Your girlfriend left you for another guy and you’re deeply hurt.

She used to be madly in love with you, but not anymore.

There’s a new guy in her life that she’s enamored with.

While she’s still friendly and returns your texts, she’s in love with the other guy more.

Everything you do to attempt to change her mind only seems to drive her away.

What can you do?

If this is your situation, read on to learn how to win your ex girlfriend back from her new boyfriend. (In particular, this video teaches you little-known techniques to “re-wire” your ex’s feelings and make her want you back).

Ok so you’re in a “competitive” type of scenario.

You want your ex girlfriend back badly, but she’s in love with another guy.

So if you want her to choose you over him, you need to be clever.

However, the typical things most men do usually backfire and they end up pushing their ex girlfriend away forever.

In particular, there’s 1 TRAP men fall for whenever they compete for a girl in the type of situation were the girl likes both guys but can’t decide who to go with.

The big trap is thinking that “giving her attention” means “increasing her attraction”

While this “blind spot” ruins your chances, you can also use it to give yourself a big advantage over the other guy.

Read on as I explain how to do this.

In this article you will also learn:

  • Why pursuing her repulses her even more
  • How seeking CERTAINTY of her feelings ruins you
  • Why most men incorrectly think that “giving her attention” means “increasing her attraction”, how your competition is falling for this trap, and how you can use this secret to give yourself an advantage over the other guy

Email Exchange With a Student

In this email exchange, one of my students is in a similar situation as you.

His ex girlfriend is going out with a new boyfriend, but he wants to win her back.

Pay close attention as I reveal to him the 1 secret to getting your ex girlfriend back. (It’s a trick that could apply to your very specific situation)

***Question***

How to Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Her New Boyfriend?

Dear Frankie,

I was too preoccupied with my career goals and didn’t pay attention to my girlfriend’s needs.

She was patient for 6 months while I was a very bad boyfriend for sure.

But then she started getting close to another guy who’s younger than her.

This guy did nice things for her, which she really enjoyed.

Then she started getting confused about “us”.

She started comparing all the times she was with me and realised that I never cared for her the way he did and told me that I’ve always been very selfish.

Then she asked for space and time but my insecurity and anxiety made me pursue her.

But this only repulsed her and finally now I have decided to give her space.

I became someone she did not fall in love with, and lost all my confidence, which I’m now trying to get back…

Is there a chance she will come back to me?

I was her first boyfriend and she was my first girlfriend.

Kindly advise.

– Chris

My Reply

Hey Chris, keep giving her space right now.

The #1 thing that will affect whether you get her back is if you are able to sit back and not pursue…  until she reaches out.

His Reply

Dear Frankie,

Thanks for getting back to me on such short notice.

Right now I am paranoid she’ll develop feelings for the new guy because she seems like she’s not willing to give up on him no matter what.

She told me she needs him but doesn’t know if she needs me.

She also told me that even though he’s younger and she is not intending on planning a future with him, she’s not willing to let him go to have a “happily ever after” with me.

Could you kindly advise and tell me what she is trying to say?

She keeps saying she’s confused and repeatedly tells me to give her time… but I’m worried that if I give her space it will all be in vain because that guy is taking care of all her needs.

So can you tell me how the no contact rule works here?

Regards,
Chris

My Reply

Hey Chris, 

You want certainty of her feelings for you.

So you asked about her feelings and she talked about her plans with the younger guy versus her plans with you.

She also said she’s confused and wants time… and this is EXTREMELY important to getting her attraction back.

Badgering her about her feelings, and telling her to leave the other guy is only going to annoy her and push her away. 

It’s the weak move. It makes you look like a little girl, not like a grown man. She wants a grown man who is emotionally strong that she can RESPECT. If she can’t respect you, she can’t ever love you.

The next thing I want to point out, is that trying to figure out “her feelings” is futile, because attraction isn’t “set in stone”.

What I mean is to take what she *SAYS* right now with a grain of salt, because it doesn’t have to apply to the future. 

For example, when she said she loved you in the past, that only applied to that moment. Because obviously she isn’t loving you right now.

When she says she doesn’t love you right now, that applies to THIS MOMENT, but it doesn’t need to apply to the future…

…if you know what to do.

Her feelings can change day to day… and it all comes down to what you do to increase her attraction (or decrease it)… so only focus on what you need to do to increase attraction in her.

To do this, first eliminate all behaviors that decrease her attraction for you.

The big mistake you’re making right now is asking about her feelings for you.

Think of the uncertainty principle in physics: You disturb the system by making a measurement.

Similarly, by asking a girl about her feelings for you, you change her feelings by making her LESS ATTRACTED to you…  because the very act of asking shows you are needy and makes you less attractive in her eyes.

The question you should be asking is “What will make her attracted to me again?”.

Right now, the answer to that question is to *CREATE SPACE*.

Pursuing her will only repulse her even more.

“But what about the other guy?” you might ask…

Well… just because the other guy is giving her attention doesn’t mean she’ll grow more attracted to him.

Instead, the effect might be the OPPOSITE!  

He might even make the same mistake you made of giving her TOO MUCH attention.

Look, you give yourself an advantage by going no contact and letting her wonder about you.

See, you feel the urge to compete with the new guy, so you think you need to get inside her text messages to make an impact.

You think that you need to “DO MORE” to win.

But you really need to “DO LESS”.

The other guy is doing all these things for her, and you can totally take advantage of the fact that she’s going to get tired of all the attention she gets from him… and she’s going to go distant on him.

On your side, you are going to stop giving her attention, go no contact, and focus on yourself

You are to go 100% no contact, unless she reaches out.

See, women choose the guy whose feelings are more “unclear”.

If she has two guys hungry for her, she’s confused because that hunger is unattractive from both sides.

But if you were to let her come to you, and focus on yourself. She will wonder why you stopped giving her attention.

So she’s going to reach out to seek your attention once more… cause she wants your attention back.

That point when she reaches out is when you now have the advantage and you can make plans for dates that lead to sex.

You’ll ask her to come over your place to make dinner together. (Making dates at your place makes the sex logistics too easy).

Your attitude will only be that of the LOVER: hang out, have fun, and hook up.

Your attitude won’t be the worried guy who wants to get the love of his life back into a relationship.

You won’t ask her about her feelings anymore, you won’t ask her about your future together, you won’t talk about the “relationship label”, and you won’t ask about the other guy.

You will only focus on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up.

THAT’S how you win your ex girlfriend back from her new boyfriend.

She will forget about the other guy and come to you.

The question is whether you can be happy on your own without being needy for her texts. 

See, if you get an urge to text her, you might not be able to resist and your feelings will force you to text her.

The next several weeks will be a test of your strength… and if you find ways to focus your brain on other things that aren’t your ex, you’ll grow stronger.

Find a way to focus on yourself, your passions in life, and your purpose.

Most importantly, the best thing you can do is focus and talk to OTHER GIRLS.

Don’t message your ex girlfriend at all unless she messages you first.

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And finally, if you want to re-attract your girlfriend back to you (and I’m guessing you do, or you wouldn’t be reading this)… then you should watch this video here:

Free Video: How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

It reveals a simple series of steps you can take… starting right now… to “re-attract” your ex girlfriend and change the way she feels about you.

==> watch it here